When I was nine years old, I went off to summer camp
for the first time. And my mother packed me a suitcase
full of books, which to me seemed like
a perfectly natural thing to do. Because in my family,
reading was the primary group activity. And this might sound antisocial to you, but for us it was really just
a different way of being social. You have the animal warmth of your family
sitting right next to you, but you are also free to go
roaming around the adventureland inside your own mind. And I had this idea that camp was going to be
just like this, but better. (Laughter) I had a vision of 10 girls
sitting in a cabin cozily reading books
in their matching nightgowns. (Laughter) Camp was more like a keg party
without any alcohol. And on the very first day, our counselor gathered us all together and she taught us a cheer
that she said we would be doing every day for the rest of the summer
to instill camp spirit. And it went like this: “R-O-W-D-I-E, that’s the way we spell rowdie. Rowdie, rowdie, let’s get rowdie.” (Laughter) Yeah. So I couldn’t figure out
for the life of me why we were supposed to be so rowdy, or why we had to spell
this word incorrectly. (Laughter) But I recited a cheer. I recited
a cheer along with everybody else. I did my best. And I just waited for the time
that I could go off and read my books. But the first time that I took
my book out of my suitcase, the coolest girl in the bunk came up to me and she asked me, “Why
are you being so mellow?” — mellow, of course,
being the exact opposite of R-O-W-D-I-E. And then the second time I tried it, the counselor came up to me
with a concerned expression on her face and she repeated the point
about camp spirit and said we should all work very hard
to be outgoing. And so I put my books away, back in their suitcase, and I put them under my bed, and there they stayed
for the rest of the summer. And I felt kind of guilty about this. I felt as if the books needed me somehow, and they were calling out to me
and I was forsaking them. But I did forsake them
and I didn’t open that suitcase again until I was back home with my family
at the end of the summer. Now, I tell you this story
about summer camp. I could have told you
50 others just like it — all the times that I got the message that somehow my quiet
and introverted style of being was not necessarily the right way to go, that I should be trying to pass
as more of an extrovert. And I always sensed deep down
that this was wrong and that introverts were
pretty excellent just as they were. But for years I denied this intuition, and so I became a Wall Street
lawyer, of all things, instead of the writer
that I had always longed to be — partly because I needed to prove to myself
that I could be bold and assertive too. And I was always going off to crowded bars when I really would have preferred
to just have a nice dinner with friends. And I made these
self-negating choices so reflexively, that I wasn’t even aware
that I was making them. Now this is what many introverts do, and it’s our loss for sure, but it is also our colleagues’ loss and our communities’ loss. And at the risk of sounding grandiose,
it is the world’s loss. Because when it comes
to creativity and to leadership, we need introverts doing
what they do best. A third to a half of the population
are introverts — a third to a half. So that’s one out of every two
or three people you know. So even if you’re an extrovert yourself, I’m talking about your coworkers and your spouses and your children and the person sitting
next to you right now — all of them subject to this bias that is pretty deep
and real in our society. We all internalize it
from a very early age without even having a language
for what we’re doing. Now, to see the bias clearly, you need to understand
what introversion is. It’s different from being shy. Shyness is about fear of social judgment. Introversion is more about, how do you respond to stimulation, including social stimulation. So extroverts really crave
large amounts of stimulation, whereas introverts feel
at their most alive and their most switched-on
and their most capable when they’re in quieter,
more low-key environments. Not all the time —
these things aren’t absolute — but a lot of the time. So the key then to maximizing our talents is for us all to put ourselves in the zone of stimulation
that is right for us. But now here’s where the bias comes in. Our most important institutions, our schools and our workplaces, they are designed mostly for extroverts and for extroverts’ need
for lots of stimulation. And also we have
this belief system right now that I call the new groupthink, which holds that all creativity
and all productivity comes from a very oddly gregarious place. So if you picture the typical
classroom nowadays: When I was going to school,
we sat in rows. We sat in rows of desks like this, and we did most of our work
pretty autonomously. But nowadays, your typical classroom
has pods of desks — four or five or six or seven kids
all facing each other. And kids are working
in countless group assignments. Even in subjects like math
and creative writing, which you think would depend
on solo flights of thought, kids are now expected to act
as committee members. And for the kids who prefer to go off
by themselves or just to work alone, those kids are seen as outliers often or, worse, as problem cases. And the vast majority of teachers reports believing that
the ideal student is an extrovert as opposed to an introvert, even though introverts
actually get better grades and are more knowledgeable, according to research. (Laughter) Okay, same thing is true
in our workplaces. Now, most of us work in open plan offices, without walls, where we are subject to the constant
noise and gaze of our coworkers. And when it comes to leadership, introverts are routinely passed over
for leadership positions, even though introverts
tend to be very careful, much less likely to take outsize risks — which is something
we might all favor nowadays. And interesting research
by Adam Grant at the Wharton School has found that introverted leaders often deliver better outcomes
than extroverts do, because when they are managing
proactive employees, they’re much more likely to let
those employees run with their ideas, whereas an extrovert
can, quite unwittingly, get so excited about things that they’re putting
their own stamp on things, and other people’s ideas might not
as easily then bubble up to the surface. Now in fact, some of our transformative
leaders in history have been introverts. I’ll give you some examples. Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Gandhi — all these people described themselves
as quiet and soft-spoken and even shy. And they all took the spotlight, even though every bone in their bodies
was telling them not to. And this turns out to have
a special power all its own, because people could feel
that these leaders were at the helm not because they enjoyed directing others and not out of the pleasure
of being looked at; they were there
because they had no choice, because they were driven to do
what they thought was right. Now I think at this point
it’s important for me to say that I actually love extroverts. I always like to say some of my best
friends are extroverts, including my beloved husband. And we all fall
at different points, of course, along the introvert/extrovert spectrum. Even Carl Jung, the psychologist
who first popularized these terms, said that there’s no such thing
as a pure introvert or a pure extrovert. He said that such a man
would be in a lunatic asylum, if he existed at all. And some people fall smack in the middle
of the introvert/extrovert spectrum, and we call these people ambiverts. And I often think that they have
the best of all worlds. But many of us do recognize
ourselves as one type or the other. And what I’m saying is that culturally,
we need a much better balance. We need more of a yin and yang
between these two types. This is especially important when it comes to creativity
and to productivity, because when psychologists look
at the lives of the most creative people, what they find are people who are very good
at exchanging ideas and advancing ideas, but who also have a serious
streak of introversion in them. And this is because solitude is a crucial ingredient
often to creativity. So Darwin, he took long walks alone in the woods and emphatically turned down
dinner-party invitations. Theodor Geisel, better known as Dr. Seuss, he dreamed up many
of his amazing creations in a lonely bell tower office that he had in the back of his house
in La Jolla, California. And he was actually afraid to meet
the young children who read his books for fear that they were expecting him
this kind of jolly Santa Claus-like figure and would be disappointed
with his more reserved persona. Steve Wozniak invented
the first Apple computer sitting alone in his cubicle
in Hewlett-Packard where he was working at the time. And he says that he never would have
become such an expert in the first place had he not been too introverted
to leave the house when he was growing up. Now, of course, this does not mean that we should
all stop collaborating — and case in point, is Steve Wozniak
famously coming together with Steve Jobs to start Apple Computer — but it does mean that solitude matters and that for some people
it is the air that they breathe. And in fact, we have known for centuries
about the transcendent power of solitude. It’s only recently that
we’ve strangely begun to forget it. If you look at most
of the world’s major religions, you will find seekers — Moses, Jesus, Buddha, Muhammad — seekers who are going off by themselves
alone to the wilderness, where they then have profound
epiphanies and revelations that they then bring back
to the rest of the community. So, no wilderness, no revelations. This is no surprise, though, if you look at the insights
of contemporary psychology. It turns out that we can’t
even be in a group of people without instinctively mirroring,
mimicking their opinions. Even about seemingly
personal and visceral things like who you’re attracted to, you will start aping the beliefs
of the people around you without even realizing
that that’s what you’re doing. And groups famously follow the opinions of the most dominant
or charismatic person in the room, even though there’s zero correlation between being the best talker
and having the best ideas — I mean zero. So — (Laughter) You might be following the person
with the best ideas, but you might not. And do you really want
to leave it up to chance? Much better for everybody
to go off by themselves, generate their own ideas freed from the distortions
of group dynamics, and then come together as a team to talk them through
in a well-managed environment and take it from there. Now if all this is true, then why are we getting it so wrong? Why are we setting up our schools
this way, and our workplaces? And why are we making
these introverts feel so guilty about wanting to just go off
by themselves some of the time? One answer lies deep
in our cultural history. Western societies, and in particular the U.S., have always favored the man of action
over the “man” of contemplation. But in America’s early days, we lived in what historians
call a culture of character, where we still,
at that point, valued people for their inner selves
and their moral rectitude. And if you look at the self-help
books from this era, they all had titles with things like “Character, the Grandest
Thing in the World.” And they featured role models
like Abraham Lincoln, who was praised for being
modest and unassuming. Ralph Waldo Emerson called him “A man who does not
offend by superiority.” But then we hit the 20th century, and we entered a new culture that historians call
the culture of personality. What happened is we had evolved
an agricultural economy to a world of big business. And so suddenly people are moving
from small towns to the cities. And instead of working alongside people
they’ve known all their lives, now they are having to prove themselves
in a crowd of strangers. So, quite understandably, qualities like magnetism and charisma
suddenly come to seem really important. And sure enough, the self-help books
change to meet these new needs and they start to have names like “How to Win Friends
and Influence People.” And they feature as their role models
really great salesmen. So that’s the world we’re living in today. That’s our cultural inheritance. Now none of this is to say
that social skills are unimportant, and I’m also not calling
for the abolishing of teamwork at all. The same religions who send their sages
off to lonely mountain tops also teach us love and trust. And the problems that we are facing today in fields like science and in economics are so vast and so complex that we are going to need armies
of people coming together to solve them working together. But I am saying that the more freedom
that we give introverts to be themselves, the more likely that they are to come up with their own unique
solutions to these problems. So now I’d like to share with you
what’s in my suitcase today. Guess what? Books. I have a suitcase full of books. Here’s Margaret Atwood, “Cat’s Eye.” Here’s a novel by Milan Kundera. And here’s “The Guide for the Perplexed”
by Maimonides. But these are not exactly my books. I brought these books with me because they were written
by my grandfather’s favorite authors. My grandfather was a rabbi and he was a widower who lived alone in a small
apartment in Brooklyn that was my favorite place
in the world when I was growing up, partly because it was filled with
his very gentle, very courtly presence and partly because
it was filled with books. I mean literally every table,
every chair in this apartment had yielded its original function to now serve as a surface
for swaying stacks of books. Just like the rest of my family, my grandfather’s favorite thing to do
in the whole world was to read. But he also loved his congregation, and you could feel this love
in the sermons that he gave every week for the 62 years
that he was a rabbi. He would takes the fruits
of each week’s reading and he would weave these intricate tapestries
of ancient and humanist thought. And people would come from all over
to hear him speak. But here’s the thing about my grandfather. Underneath this ceremonial role, he was really modest
and really introverted — so much so that when
he delivered these sermons, he had trouble making eye contact with the very same congregation
that he had been speaking to for 62 years. And even away from the podium, when you called him to say hello, he would often end
the conversation prematurely for fear that he was taking up
too much of your time. But when he died at the age of 94, the police had to close down
the streets of his neighborhood to accommodate the crowd of people
who came out to mourn him. And so these days I try to learn
from my grandfather’s example in my own way. So I just published a book
about introversion, and it took me about seven years to write. And for me, that seven years
was like total bliss, because I was reading, I was writing, I was thinking, I was researching. It was my version of my grandfather’s hours
of the day alone in his library. But now all of a sudden
my job is very different, and my job is to be
out here talking about it, talking about introversion. (Laughter) And that’s a lot harder for me, because as honored as I am
to be here with all of you right now, this is not my natural milieu. So I prepared for moments
like these as best I could. I spent the last year
practicing public speaking every chance I could get. And I call this my “year
of speaking dangerously.” (Laughter) And that actually helped a lot. But I’ll tell you, what helps even more is my sense, my belief, my hope
that when it comes to our attitudes to introversion and to quiet
and to solitude, we truly are poised on the brink
on dramatic change. I mean, we are. And so I am going to leave you now with three calls for action
for those who share this vision. Number one: Stop the madness for constant group work. Just stop it. (Laughter) Thank you. (Applause) And I want to be clear
about what I’m saying, because I deeply believe our offices should be encouraging casual, chatty
cafe-style types of interactions — you know, the kind
where people come together and serendipitously have
an exchange of ideas. That is great. It’s great for introverts
and it’s great for extroverts. But we need much more privacy
and much more freedom and much more autonomy at work. School, same thing. We need to be teaching kids
to work together, for sure, but we also need to be teaching them
how to work on their own. This is especially important
for extroverted children too. They need to work on their own because that is where deep thought
comes from in part. Okay, number two: Go to the wilderness. Be like Buddha, have your own revelations. I’m not saying that we all have to now go off and build
our own cabins in the woods and never talk to each other again, but I am saying that we could
all stand to unplug and get inside our own heads
a little more often. Number three: Take a good look
at what’s inside your own suitcase and why you put it there. So extroverts, maybe your suitcases
are also full of books. Or maybe they’re full of champagne glasses
or skydiving equipment. Whatever it is, I hope you take
these things out every chance you get and grace us with your energy
and your joy. But introverts, you being you, you probably have the impulse
to guard very carefully what’s inside your own suitcase. And that’s okay. But occasionally, just occasionally, I hope you will open up your suitcases
for other people to see, because the world needs you and it
needs the things you carry. So I wish you the best
of all possible journeys and the courage to speak softly. Thank you very much. (Applause) Thank you. Thank you. (Applause)

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100 thoughts on “The power of introverts | Susan Cain

  • September 11, 2019 at 1:47 pm
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    As a introvert you gotta work harder because of our society that rewards being extraverted/ social. Being an Introverted isn't easy, it's something that I had suck up early on in my life, especially in school and with my family completely misunderstanding introversion and the context of it. They outcasted me and my sibling who's also introverted in favour of family members that are extraverted/social.

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  • September 11, 2019 at 2:43 pm
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    The courage to speak softly <3 Thank you.

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  • September 11, 2019 at 7:15 pm
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    She reminds me of Lisa Kudrow

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  • September 11, 2019 at 9:55 pm
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    Why do people always, like always want to split human group into two? Like the good and evil, Man and women, and introverts and extroverts.There should be a lot of people who don’t stand on either side

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  • September 11, 2019 at 11:21 pm
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    SHE NEEDS A D, A HUGE ONE!

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  • September 12, 2019 at 1:23 am
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    It's crazy to find a word that defines you.

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  • September 12, 2019 at 2:15 am
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    She looks like phoebe

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  • September 12, 2019 at 2:16 am
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    The greatest introvert was Nikola Tesla

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  • September 12, 2019 at 2:52 pm
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    Susan put forth a beautiful presentation, it was enjoyable to watch her. I just purchased her book on "Quiet" which was recommended by Dominique Sachse on you tube. I researched on You Tube to find a review on the book I had just purchased. What struck my curiosity was that Dominique was a full blown extrovert with personality that over flows and yet she was promoting Susan Cain's book "Quiet." I understand now after investigating myself. Susan Cain understands balancing and how important that is. I once took a college class that had a questionaire to identified if you are extrovert/ introvert and I measured in the middle of the spectrum. It is a great tool for instructors to determine what style of teaching would be most beneficial for the group of students. This book, to me, is so beautiful because it centers on (notice I used the word centered), on balancing so each individual can get the most out of what subjects are being taught so they can contribute in their own individual way. Now if only we could do this in politics.

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  • September 13, 2019 at 5:23 pm
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    It's too bad that if someone isn't good at APPROACHING TOTAL STRANGERS & ACTING LIKE THEY'RE FRIENDS it amounts to a social handicap.

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  • September 13, 2019 at 6:45 pm
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    “StOp BeInG sHy”

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  • September 13, 2019 at 8:08 pm
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    my teacher in the class gave us a football example and asked us a question , i tolled him that i know nothing about football it's just not my thing and i'm not actually interested in it , so he started telling me that i'm WRONG and football is what unite people and so and so and that i MUST follow the society and keeping up with people so i don't fall be lifted behind (just for not knowing anything about football) i felt so uncomfortable and literally wanted to drop his course just for that.

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  • September 14, 2019 at 2:16 am
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    “Our lives are shaped as profoundly by personality as by gender or race"

    I strongly disagree with this statement by Susain Cain. Your life shouldn't be shaped by gender or race; especially race.Only in the United States is a statement like this is never questioned. That means something is wrong with the society we live in if your life is shaped profoundly by your "race".

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  • September 14, 2019 at 6:10 am
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    I just keep staring at that necklace that she's wearing. Is she wearing it to represent the Hmong people??

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  • September 14, 2019 at 8:23 pm
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    I find being around people sometimes very draining

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  • September 15, 2019 at 12:58 pm
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    Just extrovert casually passing by…

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  • September 15, 2019 at 8:06 pm
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    Aww reminds me of all the teachers telling me to "come out of my shell"

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  • September 16, 2019 at 12:59 am
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    I'm introvert because im too lazy to speak.

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  • September 16, 2019 at 5:05 am
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    my spanish teacher last year would down grade students for being introverts and not participating class conversations. he treated introvertism as if it was some terrible thing you needed to change about yourself.

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  • September 16, 2019 at 12:16 pm
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    BTW Elon musk is an introvert

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  • September 16, 2019 at 6:37 pm
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    The people who disliked this video missed the entire point of what the speaker was trying to say, either that or they are trolling. Probably they are simply not willing to entertain a viewpoint that is not like their own. People fear what they don't understand and therefore they shun it.

    Introverts of the world Unite! …… separately…in your own homes.

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  • September 16, 2019 at 7:31 pm
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    Well, to all you extroverts: Introverts arent just quiet because they are shy, sometimes they actually arent interestet in the topics you talk about. I actually join in conversations if it´s about a topic i like and know.

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  • September 17, 2019 at 9:29 am
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    Reading, Writing, Thinking, Strategizing, Researching, being Persistent, Focused. These are an introverts strengths!

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  • September 17, 2019 at 6:25 pm
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    Books for extroverts are all about how that’s the goal and all else is to be avoided. Her book, Quiet, seeks to find a way to have both introverts and extroverts work to their strengths. That is a difference between those two types, generally speaking.

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  • September 18, 2019 at 1:45 am
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    anybody else notice how shy/nervous the speaker was? not saying her speech was bad, just saying that she kinda shows her introversion when talking and might be facing her fears by talking im front of sp many people. good job, by the way, to the speaker (i didnt get her name)

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  • September 18, 2019 at 4:11 am
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    Brava! When I began reading your book "Quiet" I felt I'd come home – to where I was truly understood. Part of my work is assisting people who have an unintegrated "fear/paralysis" reflex and I felt your work on introverts fits incredibly well with these clients who have an active F/P reflex. Thank you for your wonderful work and for shedding a light on introverts in the big wide world. Yours in Gratitude

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  • September 18, 2019 at 7:04 am
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    13:34 Me thinking some guns were gonna pop up and TED audience had pumped up kicks

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  • September 18, 2019 at 7:18 am
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    didn’t know you could have a power without doing much

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  • September 18, 2019 at 9:10 pm
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    When I was In school, I used to detest it when the teachers said we were going to do teamwork activities. Especially when it was something I liked and they didn't know anything about

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  • September 19, 2019 at 12:31 am
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    heyyyy guysss go read her book, it's awsome, u will love it

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  • September 20, 2019 at 10:42 am
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    nah this is rarted

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  • September 20, 2019 at 3:38 pm
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    Truely one of the greatest TED talks of all time. Funny, heartfelt, and sheds a light on a hidden aspect of our society.

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  • September 20, 2019 at 4:40 pm
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    I'm fine to be an introvert. Being alone helps me much more being in a class full of people. And I hate to talk. I try to talk as much as I can, communicate by body language, eye contacts, symbol language… Even though I love my extrovert girl friend. I can talk to her everything, everytime, everyday without feeling exhausted. I am Yin and she is my Yang. I'm feeling perfect.

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  • September 20, 2019 at 6:28 pm
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    I'm a teacher and I'm introvert. I understand why other students can't participate in class.

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  • September 20, 2019 at 6:29 pm
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    My coteachers said I'm so quiet and sometimes I feel like they don't want to be around with me. My mind said ask me if I want to be around with you. 😏

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  • September 20, 2019 at 7:39 pm
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    I’ve always hated it when I have to do a paper with someone who was even my friend bc In my friend group I got the best grades and so if they made a mistake or multiple mistakes I didn’t want to seem mean to repeatedly correct them. I much prefer to do my own work.

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  • September 20, 2019 at 9:36 pm
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    This is the best talk about introverts I’ve ever heard omg

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  • September 20, 2019 at 11:08 pm
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    what really annoys me when extroverts act like they'e better than introverts. those people that have that arrogant's deserve to get beaten up. being an introvert is a life style. if you don't like it. be an extrovert. but don't pretend for a moment you're better than an introvert. because you're not. not even a little.

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  • September 21, 2019 at 1:00 am
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    My extrovert friends invite themselves to my home and wanna bring their husbands. How do I tell them that I don’t do that? My home is my sanctuary I interact daily with many people outside and at home I need peace.

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  • September 21, 2019 at 7:41 am
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    I'm an ambivert, but mostly extroverted and I always fall for introverts

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  • September 21, 2019 at 4:12 pm
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    sounds like Phoebe, she should sing smelly cat

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  • September 21, 2019 at 9:49 pm
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    I swear Youtube's been actually recommending good stuff fr

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  • September 21, 2019 at 11:09 pm
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    I read her book and it’s amazing

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  • September 22, 2019 at 4:23 am
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    Honestly i don't how I suddenly find this but I was crying wondering why extrovert say all these hurtful things and believe being extrovert is the only way to live. Like if you're not extrovert then thats mean you're have mental problems or are just arrogant… My cousins needs to see this… Even then I believe they won't get the point… Since they like it so everyone should too 😒

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  • September 22, 2019 at 7:29 pm
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    Number one:stop the madness of constant team work.
    Best said

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  • September 22, 2019 at 8:46 pm
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    My bag is full of books ❤️💖♥️

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  • September 22, 2019 at 11:52 pm
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    It baffles me that growing up when my schools (elementary, middle school, high school) held meet the teacher nights, it never failed that my teachers would describe me as the perfect student. They said I had superb grades, caused no trouble, helped other students, answered questions, some would say I was the best student they had ever had. Despite being the best in their eyes, they would always say "but she doesn't talk a lot, is she quiet at home?" That notion alone pushed me to be more outgoing but I'm truly seeing that the outgoing people are usually the worst of the crowd yet they are seen as praise-worthy just because they dare to speak out loud. I don't understand the stigma behind quiet kids being seen as a problem. When being left to it, they do some incredible things.

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  • September 23, 2019 at 4:56 am
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    Well, I’m introverted AND shy because I have social anxiety, so…

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  • September 23, 2019 at 6:58 am
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    "Extroverts are like pop ups"

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  • September 23, 2019 at 7:51 am
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    When introverts gather together, its not a group it's a coallision.

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  • September 23, 2019 at 9:49 am
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    Like & comment if you are introvert. What country are you from?

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  • September 23, 2019 at 12:38 pm
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    Idk. But she sounds like Phoebeee ❤😍❤😍❤

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  • September 23, 2019 at 3:02 pm
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    As an introvert, I do need more alone time than most other people, but seriously sometimes I do want to interact with people (here I'm referring to extroverts), it's just that they think I'm too quiet and not fun enough to be around, which tbh is false, according to my other introvert friends.

    And it's funny how in this city I live in, kids are encouraged to be quiet and incredibly obedient at a young age, but as we proceed to adolescence, we're expected to suddenly speak up. And not being able to speak in front of a large group of people is seen as weaker and more 'useless'.

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  • September 23, 2019 at 7:26 pm
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    She sounds like Lisa Kudrow

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  • September 23, 2019 at 8:20 pm
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    I personally see that when teachers do group works its a way to make less work when they assign big projects. So I understand that, is way to much work . But the majority of times my teachers let me do some projects alone if there like 4 groups of 5 because it's just one more group even if the group is one student

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  • September 24, 2019 at 2:34 am
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    Me

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  • September 24, 2019 at 5:39 am
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    This is fye🔥🔥🔥🔥

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  • September 24, 2019 at 7:40 am
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    Um am shy, introvert but yet extrovert with ppl i really like

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  • September 24, 2019 at 8:06 am
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    Feeling social anxiety just from leaving this comment.

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  • September 25, 2019 at 2:56 am
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    I've never seen the correlation of village life vs city life and the impact it has on introverts. It makes sense especially considering the competitive nature that's borne out of the need to succeed…let me think about that in a quiet place for a while 😉

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  • September 25, 2019 at 4:48 am
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    When my son was young, he always hated going to camp. Now he hates college(he shares a room) says he has no privacy. When he’s home he comes out of his room 1 or 2 times a day.

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  • September 25, 2019 at 5:36 am
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    being an introverts does not necessarily about reading books alone, away from people. i am an introverts but i love outside world, when i went outside i learnt a lot. still, i don't feel comfortable in a loud crowded place, don't like being around new people. when i'm among friends with a conversation my mouth never runs trough the conversation but my mind, they might think i don't enjoy being around them, but i really did, note that i'm not completely passive troughout the conversation or an argument i spent a lot of time just to laugh and listening, but when i do talk, i talk straight on point. which why they call me blak blakan which means blunty guy. so most of the time i had so much in my mind but never feels that i need to express it trough my words, i'd keep it to myself, but when somethings worth to say pops out then without hesitate.

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  • September 25, 2019 at 9:14 am
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    Oh my goodness!! She spoke into my heart!! 🙏🏻🙌🏻

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  • September 25, 2019 at 3:57 pm
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    I shed some tears while watching dayum

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  • September 25, 2019 at 6:02 pm
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    damn listen to her my body was full of goosebumps

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  • September 25, 2019 at 6:55 pm
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    It's a label introvert-extrovert, gay-straight white black doesn't matter. At the very core of our existence, we are all humans. due to the labeling and categorizing of ourselves has caused a great divide in humanity. Until such labeling it stopped or overlooks we will continue to be a divided species.

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  • September 26, 2019 at 1:44 am
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    her voice with out looking she t kinda sounds like lisa kudrow.

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  • September 26, 2019 at 5:55 am
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    https://www.vamatoday.in/love-life/difficult-future-for-introvert-children/

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  • September 26, 2019 at 5:56 am
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    Some people always told me to change. Because im not like them. Like to chit chat and laughing for nothing. Now im realize im differents and special. Thanks God😀.

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  • September 26, 2019 at 12:49 pm
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    Piękny wykład Susan

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  • September 26, 2019 at 2:38 pm
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    I feel that the best types of introverts are those that come with humor.. because as they (we) may not like to speak and express very much, when they (we) do, it comes with gold.

    my classmate: why r u so quiet?
    me: because I'm not noisy
    my classmate: goes in deep thought to question about the meaning of the universe

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  • September 26, 2019 at 3:44 pm
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    The best ideas often don't get recognized because extroverts rush things too much and do not take time to contemplate on ideas

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  • September 26, 2019 at 7:01 pm
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    I had a boss who was not supportive of me being an introvert. She constantly told me I needed to speak up more in meetings even though I felt more comfortable observing and processing. She also told me she didn't think I was an introvert because I was social and friendly. Being genuinely interested in people and a good networker, doesn't mean I'm not an introvert. It was tough working in that environment!

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  • September 26, 2019 at 8:12 pm
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    Nice to find out I'm not a weirdo or outcast. Even though it never bothered me to be treated differently in school, but it was rough being black and an introvert. The biggest disappointment is not being able to develop on an introvert level in school. Now at my age it would be nice to have a career platform best suited for introverted minded people.

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  • September 27, 2019 at 12:41 am
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    Introverts like to boost their own egos.

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  • September 27, 2019 at 11:52 am
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    I am an introvert. I can totally relate to this video.

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  • September 27, 2019 at 5:52 pm
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    Only an Introvert can sense the discomfort she must have felt delivering this amazing Ted talk .. Amazing

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  • September 28, 2019 at 1:13 am
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    I feel at home here

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  • September 28, 2019 at 5:03 am
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    As an introvert sometimes i wish ,there is zombie apocalypse soon and i can survive alone with my survival skill that i improved when im alone in my backyard home without other extrovert help,,i sick of this world when i want to open my self and talking to those extrovert yeah they saw me like im an alien from other planet/weird and don't care about me and the irony was they ask people like me more open and being socialize but when i tried they rejected me and gossip and don't care about me ..

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  • September 28, 2019 at 2:24 pm
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    Can i be an introvert but still be shy or have social anxiety at the same time?

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  • September 28, 2019 at 2:41 pm
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    For me during group discussions and I’m paired with another introvert I don’t really know I stay silent and all teachers assume I’m ill or something and ask me if I was ok

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  • September 28, 2019 at 2:59 pm
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    I read your book . It was so good . All my life I was told something was wrong with me. I never thought something was wrong with me but I never understood what was the problem. Being an introvert is awesome I just never fully appreciated it . Thank you.

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  • September 28, 2019 at 3:25 pm
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    So good to see Introverted Public Speaker standing out for all introverts. Cheers

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  • September 28, 2019 at 3:41 pm
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    Tears coming from my eyes after seeing the standing ovation she got.♥️

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  • September 28, 2019 at 6:02 pm
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    A beautiful talk that adeptly summarizes an enriching book.

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  • September 28, 2019 at 7:47 pm
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    Don't even get me started on the frustrations of being in a group & seeing the most outspoken person lead the project while completely ignoring some great ideas simply because in a group situation extroverts dominate, even when they are not the best person for the job.

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  • September 29, 2019 at 2:15 am
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    Yeah I’m not shy, and I hate when people call me shy. I’m just “to myself” a lot. I can still work in a group and participate. And I’m very talkative and charismatic when I find a topic that I love to talk about and when I’m hanging out with friends. But I NEED my alone time. I love just sitting down alone and reading or having coffee. I’m more in my head and soft spoken, but I don’t see anything wrong with that lol.

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  • September 29, 2019 at 2:39 am
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    Yikes, people think being introverted is a good thing.

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  • September 29, 2019 at 10:07 am
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    Some people see us introverts as weird just because we don't act like extroverted people 🤔😅

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  • September 29, 2019 at 10:21 am
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    im an introvert

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  • September 29, 2019 at 2:19 pm
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    I’m INFP, what about you?

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  • September 29, 2019 at 3:46 pm
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    MULHERÃO DA PORRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!

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  • September 29, 2019 at 5:16 pm
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    Actually I'd say schools are bad for extroverts too. They're constantly told to just shut up and keep quiet and not socialize when the teachers are lecturing.

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  • September 29, 2019 at 6:44 pm
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    Remins me of Phoebe

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  • September 29, 2019 at 7:13 pm
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    sh talks just like Phoebe

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  • September 30, 2019 at 2:40 am
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    I assume that all loud and noisy people are stupid….

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  • September 30, 2019 at 3:45 am
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    Me after read the title; I got powers?

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  • September 30, 2019 at 5:55 am
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    Is it just me or she reminds you of phoebe buffay too?

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  • September 30, 2019 at 8:42 am
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    As an introvert I get extremely annoyed when extroverts constantly projects their needs for for constant being around people on to me and want to "save" from my self-imposed "loneliness", they keep telling me how dangerous feeling lonely is, and don't listen when I say "I am not feeling lonely, I am choosing and craving my alone time", they completely don't understand what being introvert is, and keep telling me that I am not one because I have social skills at all.

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  • October 1, 2019 at 10:16 am
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    I want to hug you. 💜 (or I can silently wave & smile in your general direction of that's what you prefer lol)

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