Translator: Nadine Hennig
Reviewer: Ilze Garda When I was growing up, there was this song
we used to sing on the playground, and it went like this, “Tracy and so and so,
sitting in a tree, k-i-s-s-i-n-g, first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage.” And I’m like, “OK, that’s it! That’s how you do life.
That’s how you do a relationship. Love, marriage, baby carriage. OK, got it! (Laughter) Then I grew up, and this is
what my life turned out to be. (Laughter) Slightly more complicated, right?
(Laughter) Love, marriage, divorce,
dry spells, love, marriage, co-parenting, another marriage,
another divorce; you got the picture. (Laughter) (Applause) So if you’re good at math and/or
a fast reader, what you’ve got there is that I’ve been married three times. Yep, three, and divorced. What that is supposed to mean is
that I’m a total failure at relationships. And that is one way
to look at it, but not the only way. Because what I think really happened
is that I kept marrying the wrong person. No, it’s not that I didn’t–
it’s not that I chose bad guys. My first two husbands were amazing men who are now married
to wonderful women who aren’t me. (Laughter) And my third husband, well,
we’re friends on Facebook now. So, all is well that ends well, right? After the collapse of
my third marriage in 2005, I realized that I’ve been marrying
everyone in sight, except the one person
that I really needed to marry in order to have a great relationship and that once I married that person, all of my relationships would be
successes, even the failures. The so-called failures, actually. Since we’re talking today
about women inventing, I’m going to talk about
inventing relationships. What I’ve found through a lot of trial
and obviously, many, many, many errors, to be the thing that has
transformed my life and love, and that is this idea
of marrying yourself. So what does it mean to marry yourself? It’s a big idea. It is as big as marriage itself
except, if I could just summarize it, it would be that you enter
into a relationship with yourself and then you put a ring on it. (Laughter) In other words,
you commit to yourself fully. And then you build
a relationship with yourself to the point where you realize
that you’re whole right now, that there is no man, woman, job,
circumstance that can happen to you that is going to make you more whole
because you already are. And this changes your life. By now, I’m sure at least
some of you are wondering why you should be listening
to a three-time divorcee talk about marriage? (Laughter) Even to herself. And I understand that. Here’s what I have to say about that: what I’ve learned and my experience is that the places where you have
the biggest challenges in your life become the places where you
have the most to give if you do your inner work. I kind of want to say that again: the places where you have
the biggest challenges are the places where you
have the most to give. So let me tell you a little bit
about the person I truly needed to marry: myself. I am from Minneapolis. Wooh! (Laughter) My mom was a prostitute and an alcoholic. She put me in foster care
when I was three months old. My dad was a criminal; he was a drug dealer and a pimp
with a heart of gold – actually, they both had hearts of gold – and he spent more or less
my whole life in prison. He just got out of prison
after his most recent sentence which was 20 years. Until the age of nine, I was probably
in two dozen foster homes. The thing you need to know
about this story – there are a lot of details, obviously –
but the thing you need to know is that I came out of that childhood
with one goal: to never be left. The way I was going to do that
is that I was going to get married. That was the way I was going
to accomplish that goal. So I got married the first time
to a guy I met when I was 17. We got married a couple
of years later, when I was 19. He was a really good guy
from a great family, he had an MBA. I mean, it was like,
you know, marriage material. You know, I was thrilled. I was like, “I have a family.
I belong somewhere. This is wonderful.” And then after five years I left him. Then ten years later, I got married again
to another wonderful guy, who is the father of my
now 16-years-old son. We still have a wonderful relationship.
He is a really good guy. But after four years I left him, too. And I am not proud to say that I did that,
but in order to really marry yourself, you have to get sometimes
very painfully honest with yourself about what it is that you’ve done. So I’m not proud of that. Then eight years later,
I got married again, when I was 40, and I was like, “OK, this feels right!” Let me tell you what felt right
to a girl who was in 24 foster homes: a guy who started to date
after nine months of marriage; essentially, he started dating
a 21-year-old girl. OK, I mean, it would be funny,
if it weren’t so tragic. You have to have a sense of…
that is why we’re Facebook friends. So, here I am looking
at this person that I just described with a terrible track record
of relationships, and I’m like, “I’m supposed to marry her? This is the woman
you want me to marry?” And the answer is yes. Because here is the deal: the thing about marrying yourself
is not just like cohabitating. You’re not just going to date
for a while and see how it turns out. You are going to do this
till death do you part. You are going to take vows. So here are the vows. Number 1: you are going to marry yourself
for richer or for poorer. This means you are going
to love yourself right where you are. You don’t say to yourself, “When you get
to the corner of Hollywood and Vine, then I will marry you.” You don’t say, “When you lose
ten pounds, then I will love you.” And you don’t say, “If you hadn’t
married that loser, I would love you, but since you did,
I’m sorry, I think it’s over.” When you marry yourself,
you walk yourself down that aisle exactly where you are. And paradoxically, I found
that loving myself exactly where I am is the only way to get where I am going. Number 2: you are going to marry yourself
for better or for worse. What this means is that most of us
are willing to love ourselves for better, I mean, sure, I am having
a great hair day today. I love me. (Laughter) That’s not what I am talking about. I’m talking about for worse,
you know, the big life disappointments. Maybe you don’t own a home,
you didn’t get the career you wanted, maybe you didn’t graduate from college,
or get the relationship you wanted. Maybe it hasn’t turned out–
maybe you fight with your mum, maybe you watch too much reality TV, whatever it is, it doesn’t matter anymore. Because when you marry yourself,
you agree to stay with you no matter what. Third, you marry yourself
in sickness and in health. What this means is that you forgive
yourself for your mistakes. A mistake isn’t actually a failure
unless you don’t learn from it and unless you don’t grow. There is a saying, “You ask for patience,
and what you get is a line at the bank.” (Laughter) What that means is that life
does not give you what you’ve asked for, it gives you the people,
places, and situations that allow you to develop
what you ask for. And the thing is if you don’t get it
right the first time, life will give it to you again. (Laughter) Because life is very generous that way. It’s like I didn’t get it the first time,
in the first marriage, and I didn’t get it the second time,
maybe the third time I’ll get it. So inside that terrible experience
of that third marriage, I learned something
about “in sickness and in health”. What I learned is how to sit
by my own bedside, and how to hold my own hand,
and how to nurse myself, and how to comfort myself. What I learned is that I am
a person that I can count on. Last but not least, you marry yourself– when you marry yourself,
it’s to have and to hold yourself. What does it mean to have and to hold? Well, I think it means
that you love yourself the way you want
someone else to love you. I had always been going
through life with this sense of lack. I felt like I was kind of half a person,
and that I was missing something. I went into my relationships hoping to solve this feeling
that I had my entire life: that I was not whole
unless someone loved me. The truth was that I wasn’t ever going to feel whole
until I learned to love myself. So this business of marrying yourself
transforms every area of your life: your business, family relationships,
kids, social relationships, friends. Because when you marry yourself,
this huge thing happens: you become able to love
in this whole new way. You become able to love other people
right where they are, for who they are, the same way you’re already
loving yourself. And of course, this is
what the world needs more of. So when I married myself, and I realized
that I already had everything I needed, I started seeing it as my job to basically just light up
my little corner of the world. That’s my new job. Because I don’t need anything,
I already have it. So when I take meetings, it’s all about how can I help
this person achieve her goal? When I’m in my social communities, it is like what can I bring
to this that only I can bring? When I go on dates, it is like how can I just discover
another person maybe for just one hour which, of course, brings me a full circle. Because people always asked me
about my love life; they want to know. (Laughter) You know, the answer is,
I am still working on it. Aren’t we all? So this is where I am right now. About three months ago,
I went on a first date. About 30 minutes into the date,
I found myself paying attention not to whether he liked me,
but how I felt in his presence. I noticed that I was light, happy, joking. As I reflected on the date afterwards,
I was like, “Wow, I got really excited! Look, this is how committed
I am to myself.” I am not even on this date
trying to get someone to like me. I am more interested in how I feel
about me than how he feels about me, not because I am selfish,
but because the only relationship I am ever going to have
with another person is the one that I am
already having with myself – just going to have it with them now. So it turned out he liked me,
and we are still together. It’s cool and amazing,
but I’ve been married three times, so slow down! (Laughter) The thing is that I am not trying
to get security from him through marriage, and, God forbid, a baby carriage. I am only here to
just be in a relationship. I am not dying to hear the words,
“Will you marry me?” Because even though
those words are very powerful – and very powerful to a person like me – I don’t need them to hear it from him because I have already
heard them from myself. The way I see it is like I took myself
to the top of a mountain, or maybe to the bottom of the ocean, and I got down on one knee,
and I said, “I’ll never leave you.” And now I am married to the one person
I really wanted to be with all along, myself. (Applause) Thank you. (Applause)

The person you really need to marry | Tracy McMillan | TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen
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100 thoughts on “The person you really need to marry | Tracy McMillan | TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen

  • August 10, 2019 at 6:48 pm
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    Wow! She looks like she's in her 30s. Unbelievable. I guess loving yourself makes you look younger too.

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  • August 10, 2019 at 10:53 pm
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    I love her

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  • August 11, 2019 at 2:54 am
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    Meeting a woman with the most profound abandonment issues of anyone I had ever met led me to understand that I too had very deep abandonment issues, afterall, how can you have abandonment issues when you had a mother and father? Understanding this finally got me on the path to healing. And finding the NPD healing community on YouTube literally saved my mental health, and my life.

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  • August 11, 2019 at 12:15 pm
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    I also had several bad relationships. At first, I was in denial that I was, the problem. And later, I pondered on and finally accepted that those endings also had to do with me. And the matter was, I didn't know how to accept myself, my flaws and so on. At this moment, I'm single and working on my self love first before I enter annew relationship again. 🙂 Thank you to this wonderful speech. ❤️

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  • August 11, 2019 at 5:25 pm
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    I learned this myself within the past year and it’s changed my life. Love yourself first! ❤️

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  • August 11, 2019 at 5:41 pm
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    You made me cry… Do I want to marry me ? YES 💍 Un grand merci 🙏

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  • August 11, 2019 at 9:09 pm
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    Ну, как говорится, если хочешь чтобы что-то получилось хорошо, сделай это самостоятельно =)

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  • August 11, 2019 at 10:55 pm
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    What a beautiful light to come from such a dark beginning. l love that she never stopped taking a chance on love but embraces herself as a true soul mate, that is really a testament to becoming better rather than bitter. This was so relatable and she is so powerfully vulnerable, brought tears to my eyes.

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  • August 12, 2019 at 3:28 am
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    Powerful and Beautiful ❤

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  • August 12, 2019 at 6:10 am
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    That laugh at the end 😭💚

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  • August 12, 2019 at 10:56 am
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    What about arranged marriage.

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  • August 12, 2019 at 12:42 pm
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    I am not sure why she talks about some kind of comfort that she did on herself, when she was the one who left her 2 husbands and well the third one screwed up, but still… she's not saying what her real struggle was… so I'm confused

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  • August 13, 2019 at 12:46 am
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    So she just wants be free
    She wants to be in the market always
    She’s never satisfied

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  • August 13, 2019 at 3:53 am
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    This female is an EXCELLENT example of why men should never marry. She has ruined the lives of many men because men let her do it. Don't ever get married or live with a female. The only thing a female can offer a man is a 75% chance she will ruin his life and she is proof positive.

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  • August 13, 2019 at 2:27 pm
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    even when she's trying to sound positive about former relationships, it's like her main goal in order to make her past a success, is still finding "mister right". Why not work on yourself to make your past a success you can use and maybe you will be awesome with someone, maybe you will be awesome by yourself.

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  • August 13, 2019 at 9:51 pm
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    really beautiful! Not only she is beautiful outside and inside but also so funny and pleasant to listen! <3

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  • August 14, 2019 at 2:57 am
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    so her advice qas to marry yourself? wtf is wrong with this woman, I know now why she has been divorced so manyvtimes

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  • August 14, 2019 at 5:54 am
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    Her talk is just trying to mask her own insecurities

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  • August 14, 2019 at 11:43 am
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    Thank you ..I love you 🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤

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  • August 14, 2019 at 3:21 pm
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    Bahahahaha she marries herself because she's past her expiration date for anyone else, and self-centeredness is what she has really always wanted, good luck dying alone without ever having any real connections.

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  • August 14, 2019 at 8:13 pm
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    Heartbreaking story of her beginnings..

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  • August 14, 2019 at 8:22 pm
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    I don't need to get married

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  • August 15, 2019 at 9:04 am
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    Utterly ridiculous concept.

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  • August 15, 2019 at 12:52 pm
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    in the bottom of ocean or on the top of the mountain. I say I will never leave you. she is so beautiful

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  • August 15, 2019 at 4:05 pm
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    ….I did exactly that after my first divorce ….live happy eversince…..

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  • August 16, 2019 at 12:20 pm
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    What a CROCK!!! I really hope NOBODY takes her advice. This woman will never have a successful marriage. She is seriously damaged.

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  • August 16, 2019 at 2:06 pm
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    Self love will transform your life in ways you never thought. You will make better choices, feel less guilt for sayin g"NO" to things you don't want to do and not be in such a hurry to be in a relationship or invite unsuitable friends and/or sitiuations into your life. It takes time, though, and patience is not something that many of us have when it comes to changing ourselves and our lives.

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  • August 16, 2019 at 3:38 pm
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    Nice ways of teaching people!

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  • August 16, 2019 at 6:32 pm
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    Why you left your first two marriages

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  • August 16, 2019 at 7:03 pm
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    Beautiful vows

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  • August 16, 2019 at 9:19 pm
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    Yikes!

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  • August 16, 2019 at 10:57 pm
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    Love yourself first, but love yourself least.

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  • August 17, 2019 at 12:20 am
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    There is no "i" or "me" in the word "Love". Love is selfless…
    If you are self-centred you will NOT experience love. Questions you have to answer to self is am I self-centred and is the person I am seeing self-centred?

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  • August 17, 2019 at 10:36 am
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    Narcissism is good!

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  • August 17, 2019 at 2:24 pm
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    I love her omg

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  • August 17, 2019 at 5:07 pm
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    Yesssss beautiful😢👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💝

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  • August 17, 2019 at 9:35 pm
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    She's gorgeous, even her laugh is attractive. No wonder (at least) 3 men wanted to marry her.

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  • August 18, 2019 at 3:55 am
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    MGTOW text book

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  • August 18, 2019 at 4:14 pm
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    👏👏👏👏

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  • August 18, 2019 at 7:33 pm
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    watch at 1.25 speed

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  • August 18, 2019 at 9:19 pm
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    Is everyone gonna ignore the fact this woman ruined like 4 people’s lives, but it’s all ok because she loves herself now?

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  • August 18, 2019 at 9:51 pm
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    Very good madam.

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  • August 19, 2019 at 12:35 pm
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    See : Whitney Houston – Greatest Love Of All

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  • August 19, 2019 at 3:49 pm
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    Why would one take life advice from a failure? In another ten years she will fail again and have another theory. She is 100% wrong.

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  • August 20, 2019 at 5:14 am
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    Loved this! God Bless you and keep loving yourself! 🤗

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  • August 20, 2019 at 11:26 am
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    "Okay, listen up everyone, I've been married multiple times so I am going to teach you how to pick a mate." sweet mother of God, give me strength.

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  • August 20, 2019 at 7:33 pm
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    damn, audience laughs from every single sound she makes

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  • August 20, 2019 at 10:58 pm
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    woman always leave men at the 5 year mark lol

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  • August 21, 2019 at 2:47 am
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    I'd be happy to be Tracy's 5th husband. She's smart and gorgeous and has experience that is very important to me.

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  • August 21, 2019 at 8:14 pm
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    What would happen if gets married a forth time?

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  • August 22, 2019 at 6:05 pm
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    Hey wait a bit! Something just clicked: It wasn't me who stuffed up my life and I didn't deserve it! Of course I deserve the right to vent my outrage at my control freaks! I HAVE value! And even if the world destroys my body and even my life, I will NOT let them claim my soul also! Screw them! Forgiveness is one thing, but these people don't get to be forgiven before they leave me alone! And hey, if I never find the lady I loved and lost 2 years ago, that means she doesn't want to be found. Her loss! I gotta take care of me now. If she finds me, I will hear her out, and weigh up her stories or excuses, pray carefully, and then decide whether she's worth it. There is a remote possibility that someone took her away before I told her what I was feeling. And anyway, if I learn to love self by now, and if she does the same, maybe then we will no longer fear each other anymore!

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  • August 22, 2019 at 6:52 pm
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    Tracy; have you been introduced to Boom Shikha's INFJ group! To me you sound like an INFJ who is not told about her qualities yet.

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  • August 22, 2019 at 10:30 pm
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    Honest, thought provoking and from a heart of wisdom. Thank you for sharing and Blessings

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  • August 24, 2019 at 3:13 am
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    Wow that’s good

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  • August 24, 2019 at 8:37 pm
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    Shes crazy. The men left her.

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  • August 24, 2019 at 9:27 pm
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    Divorced 3 times my God. MGTOW men. Don't let this harpy get your house.

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  • August 26, 2019 at 8:37 am
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    I really can't understand why people disliked the video. She's absolutely right

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  • August 26, 2019 at 4:15 pm
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    if you are in need of advice about marriage, seek from those who deserved.

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  • August 27, 2019 at 7:51 pm
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    For those who believe that you necessarily need to be in a couple

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  • August 28, 2019 at 3:33 am
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    Nobody needs to marry or live with anyone. Marriage was for Clones

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  • August 28, 2019 at 4:16 am
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    She is so Amazing, Thanks Tracy!

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  • August 28, 2019 at 4:36 am
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    Amazing thank you so much for sharing

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  • August 28, 2019 at 7:09 am
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    I am at my lowest point in my life and about to get my lights shut off because I can't pay my electricity bill. I have a 3 year old son. I am so broken I don't know what to do. Leaving my son's father left me in crumbles. Emotionally and financially.
    She gives me hope that one day I can love myself like she does. We have similar paths… I had a tragic childhood and I too got with guy #1 who cheated on me with hundreds (literally hundreds) of people (men). Yeah, seriously. On top of that he was abusive. But he wanted me, and like she said, our childhoods taught us to hook into that guy that will give us "love". My heart is still so entwined in love for him, I would give anything to take all that love and give it to myself.
    For better or for worse resonates with me because like I said I am so poor and unable to work and receive no child support.
    "IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH" also struck a chord, because I have been battling an unknown and debilitating chronic illness which the doctors havent been able to diagnose that is so painful and makes me miss so much school that now I lost my scholarship and had to drop out of school.
    I am praying for a miracle. I hope she has more material I could read because I need to learn how to marry myself and to love myself or I do not see how I will get out of this.

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  • August 28, 2019 at 9:59 pm
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    Same here, using the JACOBFIFTH77GMAILCOM spying app opened my eyes to a lot of things going on under my nose at home.

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  • August 28, 2019 at 10:04 pm
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    Yes I am currently spying on my husband with the JACOBFIFTH77GMAILCOM spying application

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  • August 29, 2019 at 5:39 am
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    I'm just now seeing this and I can relate on so many levels. Never been married but I would get into relationships hoping I would be happier than I was when I was single. She's gonna touch so many ppl with this video. More ppl need to hear this. Thank you for sharing. 🙏

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  • August 30, 2019 at 1:48 am
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    did she go to the Diane Keaton School For Public Speaking?

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  • August 30, 2019 at 3:14 pm
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    I really hope your date worked out Tracy….but if it didn't…my relationship with me would like to get with your relationship with you <3

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  • August 30, 2019 at 5:40 pm
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    v vur

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  • August 31, 2019 at 8:47 am
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    Damaged Goods….She.looks like she gonna have a breakdown….she will get divorced again

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  • August 31, 2019 at 8:47 am
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    Hypergamist

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  • September 1, 2019 at 1:20 am
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    I want to marry her

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  • September 1, 2019 at 11:05 am
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    Yes queen 👑👑👑👑👑👏👏👏

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  • September 1, 2019 at 4:00 pm
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    Wow! There's no enough likes for this. It made me cry at the end. "I'll never leave you." Honestly is so… powerful.

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  • September 1, 2019 at 4:07 pm
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    I want to get marry. Any one there?

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  • September 2, 2019 at 1:10 am
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    we love you tracey!!!!

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  • September 2, 2019 at 4:49 pm
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    Favorite 👰🏻, watching this over and over over again to remind myself “hey, I’ll never hurt you again”.

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  • September 4, 2019 at 12:12 am
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    Sad… If you can’t please anyone and you can’t be best friends with your mate, you shouldn’t get married.
    To say marry yourself? You’re very sad and misguided.
    Yes, you should love yourself, but from being a child till the rest of your life.

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  • September 4, 2019 at 6:26 am
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    I'm never marrying anyone.

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  • September 4, 2019 at 6:33 am
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    Here is the bottom line, she keeps trying the same thing and expecting different results. Only someone foolish does that. Seems being single is your ticket.

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  • September 4, 2019 at 8:36 am
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    Got really powerful at the end. I can see a deep ocean of regret on this woman, but I just want her to know that there is no need to regret. Despite how long it takes you to reach this point of self understanding, that's the only thing that's important. I hope your life is successful everywhere you go. You'll always have the spiritual support of myself and those around you who care for beautiful individuals such as yourself. Be proud!

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  • September 4, 2019 at 12:55 pm
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    I was adopted and did the foster care thing. Being abandoned so young will mess with your relationships. Your always insecure and have anxiety they are going to leave you.

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  • September 4, 2019 at 5:57 pm
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    2:39 Mario

    I’m sorry 😂

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  • September 5, 2019 at 4:45 pm
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    Thank you so much! Needed to see this today!!!!

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  • September 5, 2019 at 10:36 pm
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    💙👑🙏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

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  • September 6, 2019 at 3:32 am
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    Google/YouTube Adam Atiyeh to the Top

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  • September 6, 2019 at 11:37 am
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    I can honestly say one of the best TED Talks I've ever heard and I keep listening to it until I'm going to start hearing the wedding bells in my head.

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  • September 6, 2019 at 12:47 pm
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    Committee to yourself fully and put the ring 💍on top….
    2,have a good relationship with yourself first ☝
    3,marry yourself for rich and poorer……. Love yourself where you are
    4 Marry yourself For better and for
    worse
    5 In sickness & in health…. Patience
    6 Marry yourself into have and to lack……. Transform yourself in any situation you are….

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  • September 6, 2019 at 8:00 pm
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    Loved this!

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  • September 6, 2019 at 11:55 pm
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    Wow This Whole Time I'm 29 Going On 30 This Month Of Sept. & I Have Had A Few Unsuccessful Relationships College& Post But After Hearing This I Now See I Can Love& Committ To Myself. Instead Of Waiting& Looking To See Myself Reflected In Another. I Am The Other For Now. 💘 Thank You From A Fellow , Former Foster Kid Too!!

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  • September 7, 2019 at 4:50 am
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    I lost myself a long time ago. Depression has changed me totally. I’ve had so many heart breaks, from men, family, and friends. Allowing people to walk all over me became accustomed. I’m still trying to find myself and don’t want to leave this world unhappy. I just turned 40 years old and I’m still lost. Im binge watching TED videos hoping to find myself. I realize I been hurt for too long and In the mist of it all I been hurting others.

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  • September 7, 2019 at 10:40 am
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    men do everything for women. women create men they shape them. they are "the force"so to speak. if the world is one way its because you ladies want it this way.

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  • September 7, 2019 at 6:40 pm
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    Why would ANYONE get married?!

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  • September 7, 2019 at 10:58 pm
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    A middle-aged woman talking like a perfect 16-year-old. Scary.

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  • September 8, 2019 at 2:09 am
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  • September 8, 2019 at 10:16 am
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    Thanks so much. It really touched me

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  • September 8, 2019 at 7:57 pm
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    She married three time but she still beautifull and cute. She has terrble childhood and that effect on her realtionship with poeple around her .the point she made is right about learn how to love yourslef

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  • September 9, 2019 at 3:14 pm
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    Ross gellers soulmate

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