Translator: Judith Matz
Reviewer: Tatjana Jevdjic Bigger welcome!
Hello, San Francisco! TEDx – oh my God, blinding light! Hi, everybody! How are you? (Audience cheering) Fine?!
Oh my gosh! Okay, so… My name is Mel Robbins,
and for the last seventeen years, I have done nothing but help people
get everything that they want. Within reason! My husband’s here. So, I’ve done it in the courtroom,
in the boardroom, in the bedroom, in people’s living room,
whatever room you want to be in, if I’m there, I will help you get whatever
you want by any means necessary. For the last three years –
I host a syndicated radio show. Five days a week,
I go live in forty cities and I talk to men and women
across America who feel stuck. Do you know that a third of Americans
feel dissatisfied with their lives right now? That is a hundred million people! That’s insane! And I’ve come face to face with it
in this new show that I’m doing, which is also insane,
it’s called “In-laws”. I move in with families across America –
(Laughter) You guessed it! – who are at war with their in-laws. We move them into the same house,
I verbally assassinate everybody, we open up Pandora’s box, and I get people to stop arguing
about the donuts and who is hosting
Thanksgiving dinner, and talk about the real stuff. And that’s what I want
to talk to you about. I’m here for you. I’m going to tell you everything I know
in less than eighteen minutes about how to get what you want. So I want you to take
a millisecond right now and think about what you want. You! And I want you to be selfish. Screw Simon and the “We” thing.
This is about me, right now! (Laughter) (Applause)
Sorry, Simon. What do you want?
And here’s the deal. I don’t want it to sound good
to other people. Being healthy will not get your ass
on a treadmill. Losing your manboobs,
so you can hook up with somebody, now that’s motivation.
(Laughter) So, I want to know: What do you want? Do you want to lose weight?
Do you want to triple your income? Do you want to start a nonprofit?
Do you want to find love? What is it? Get it, right here. You know what it is, don’t analyze it
to death, just pick something. That’s part of the problem.
You won’t pick. So, we’re going to be talking about
how you get what you want. And frankly, getting what you want
is simple. But notice I didn’t say it was easy. It’s very simple. In fact, if you think about it, we live in the most amazing
moment in time. So that thing that you have up here,
whatever it may be, you want to use healthy eating
to cure your diabetes, you want to figure out
how to take care of the elders and start a new hospice center, you want to move to Africa
and build a school… Guess what? You can walk into a book store
– right now! – and buy at least ten books
written by credentialed experts on how the hell you do it. You could Google it. And you could probably find at least,
I don’t know – a thousand blogs documenting the step, by step,
by step transformation that somebody else is already doing. You can find anybody online
and cyber-stalk them! (Laughter) You can just walk in their footsteps –
just use the science of drafting. Follow what everyone else has done,
because somebody is already doing it! So why don’t you have what you want, when you have all the information
that you need, you have the contacts that you need, there are probably free tools online
that allow you to start a business, or join a group, or do whatever
the heck you want!? It all comes down to one word: F*©#. Shut the front door,
you know what I’m talking about? The f-bomb. It’s everywhere! You hear it all the time! I honestly don’t understand
what the appeal is of the word. I mean, you don’t sound smart
when you say it. And it’s really not expressing
how you really feel. It’s sort of a cheap shot to take. And of course you know
I’m talking about the word “fine”. “How you doing?”
“Oh, I’m fine.” Oh, really? You are? Dragging around those extra
forty pounds, you’re fine? Feeling like roommates with your spouse,
and you’re fine? You haven’t had sex in four months,
you’re fine? Really?! I don’t think so! But see, here’s the deal with saying
that you’re fine: It’s actually genius. Because if you’re fine,
you don’t have to do anything about it. But when you think about this word “fine”,
it just makes me so angry. Here we are at a conference
about being alive and you’re going to describe
the experience of being alive as “fine”?! What a flimsy and feeble word! If you’re crappy, say you’re crappy! If you’re amazing say you’re amazing! Tell the truth! And this not only goes
for the social construct: “Oh, I don’t want to burden you
with the fact that I hate my life”, or: “Hey, I’m amazing! But that
would make you feel terrible.” The bigger issue – The bigger issue with “fine”
is that you say it to yourself. That thing that you want,
I guarantee you, you’ve convinced yourself
that you’re fine not having it. That’s why you’re not pushing yourself. It’s the areas in your life
where you’ve given up. Where you’ve said, “Oh, I’m fine.
My mom’s never going to change, so I just can’t have that conversation.” “I’m fine. We’ve got to wait until
the kids graduate, before we get divorced, so we’ll just sleep in separate bedrooms.” “I’m fine. I lost my job,
I can barely pay my bills, but whatever – It’s hard to get a job.” One of the reasons why this word also just
annoys me so much is, scientists have calculated – Oh yeah, I’m coming down!
(Laughter) Scientists have calculated the odds of you being born. That’s right. They’ve crunched
the numbers. I see you up there. They’ve crunched the numbers on you – Yeah, you guys standing up,
you want to sit down for this. They’ve crunched the numbers
on you being born. And they took into account
all of the wars, and the natural disasters,
and the dinosaurs, and everything else. And do you realize that the odds,
the odds of you, yeah, right here,
put your computer away, stand up for me, Doug!
(Laughter) So the odds of Doug here,
turn around, say “hi” to everybody – the odds of Doug being born at the moment in time he was born, to the parents you were born to,
with the DNA structure that you have, one in four hundred trillion! Isn’t that amazing?
Doug: I’m so lucky! Mel: Yes! You’re not fine,
you’re fantastic! You have life-changing ideas for a reason,
and it’s not to torture yourself. Thank you. Thank you, Doug.
(Applause) Christine was right when she said
all of you could be on stage. Because all of you
– we’re all in this category. One in four hundred trillion. All day long you have ideas
that could change your life, that could change the world,
that could change the way that you feel, and what do you do with them?
Nothing! (Grunts) Hopefully I won’t moon you.
(Laughter) You didn’t pay for that.
(Laughter) And I want you to just think for a minute,
because we all have – I love to use the analogy
“the inner snooze button” – you have these amazing ideas
that bubble up. You’ve been watching people all day and I guarantee you,
like ping pong balls – bam-bam-bam and everytime you have an idea,
what do you do? – Hit the snooze! What’s the first decision
you made this morning? I bet it was to go back to bed. “Yeah, first decision today,
I’m one in four hundred trillion, I’m going to go back to sleep.” And I get it! Your bed is comfortable!
It’s cosy, it’s warm! If you’re lucky, you’ve got somebody
that you love next to you, or in my case, I’ve got my husband
and my two kids and possibly the dog. And the reason why I’m bringing up
this first decision that you made today, and the inner snooze alarm,
is because in any area of your life
that you want to change, any – there’s one fact
that you need to know. This one: You are never going to feel like it. Ever. No one’s coming,
motivation isn’t happening, you’re never going to feel like it. Scientists call it activation energy. That’s what they call the force required to get you to change
from what you’re doing on autopilot to do something new. So try this test tomorrow. You think you’re so fancy,
I know, you’re attending TED. (Laughter)
Try this. Tomorrow morning, set your alarm
for thirty minutes earlier. And then when it goes off,
take those sheets, throw them off, and stand up
and start your day. No snooze, no delay, no, “I’ll just wait here for five seconds
because Mel’s not standing here” – Do it. And the reason why I want you to do it
is because you will come face to face with the physical,
and I mean physical force that’s required to change your behavior. Do you think that somebody
who needs to lose weight ever feels like going on a diet? Of course not! You think they ever feel like eating
boiled chicken and peas instead of a croissant? I don’t think so! The activation energy required to get your ass away
from your computer and out the front door, to go on the walk, you said
that you were going to go on, is the exact same amount of force
that it takes you to push yourself out of a warm bed
and into a cold room. What’s interesting about being an adult is that when you become eighteen, nobody tells you that it’s now
going to be your job to parent yourself. And by “parent yourself”, I mean it’s your job to make yourself
do the crap you don’t want to do, so you can be everything
that you’re supposed to be. And you’re so damn busy
waiting to feel like it. And you’re never going to! My son never feels like getting off his DS.
That’s my job! Get off the damn DS! Kendall, clean up the Barbies! If you’re going to have a nude party
in my bathroom, at least clean it up! (Laughter) God, chew with your mouth closed!
We’re not a barn, for crying out loud! Alright, dinner is coming,
get out of the pantry. As parents, and you were a kid, your parents make you do the things
you don’t feel like doing. Because you won’t. Ever. Not now, not then, not ever! And even when you get good at something, you’ll figure out something else
you don’t want to do. And then you’ll plateau out, get bored,
“I hate this job. Blah blah boring.” But will you look for a new one?
No! You’ll just bitch about that one. It’s very, very simple
to get what you want. But it’s not easy. You have to force yourself. And I mean force. And the reason why
I use the word “force” – when Roz was up here
and talking about the emotion tracking, and she had the picture
of two sides of the brain – I look at the brain the exact same way. Only I describe one side
of your brain as autopilot and the other side as emergency brake. That’s the only two speeds you get:
autopilot, emergency brake. And guess which one your brain
likes better: autopilot. You’ve had the experience where
you’ve driven to work and you get there and you’re like, “Oh my God,
I don’t remember ever driving here.” (Laughter) You weren’t drunk!
That was your brain on autopilot. It was functioning just at this level. And the problem with your mind
is that anytime you do anything that’s different
from your normal routine, guess what your brain does —
emergency brake! And it has that reaction for everything.
Everything! You walk into the kitchen
and see everybody’s left their breakfast
dishes for you. And you think for the hundredth time,
“I’m going to kill them. In fact I’m gonna leave it here
and I’m going to make them do it.” But that’s not your normal routine, is it? So your mind goes: emergency brake! And you go right into autopilot. “I’ll just load it, and be pissed,
and then not have sex. That’s what I’m going to do.”
(Laughter) (Applause) So, when I say “force”, anything that’s a break from your routine
is going to require force. And if you think about your life, it’s kind of funny because we are kids
and then we become adults, and we spend so much time
trying to push our life into some sort of stable routine, and then we grow bored of it! You wake up at the same time every day,
you have largely the same breakfast, you drive to work the same way,
show up at work, look busy, avoid making calls,
update Facebook, you attend a meeting
and doodle the whole time, go back and update Facebook,
make plans for the evening, you look busy some more,
then drive home the same way, you eat largely the same dinner
or a variety of it, you watch the same kind of media, and then you go to bed,
and do the same thing all over again! No wonder you’re bored out
of your mind! It’s the routine that’s killing you. I have this theory about
why people get stuck in life. So, most of you’ve probably taken
your Basic Psych 101 class, and you’ve bumped into
Abraham Maslow’s “Hierarchy of Needs”? Well, your body is kinda cool.
Because you have these basic needs. And your body is wired
to send you signals. If you need food, what do you feel? If you need water, what do you feel? If you need sex, what do you feel?
(Laughter) Thank you. I think when you feel stuck
or dissatisfied in your life, it’s a signal. And it’s not a signal
that your life is broken. It’s a signal that one of your most
basic needs are not being met. Your need for exploration. Everything about your life,
about your body, grows! Your cells regenerate,
your hair, your nails, everything grows for your entire life. And your soul needs exploration
and growth. And the only way you’ll get it is
by forcing yourself to be uncomfortable. Forcing yourself to get outside, out of your head.
Thank you. If you’re in your head,
you’re behind enemy lines. That is not God talking, okay?
It’s not! In fact, if I put a speaker on it
and we broadcast what you say to yourself, we would institutionalize you.
(Laughter) You would not hang out with people
that talk to you the way you talk to yourself. So get out of your head! Your feelings!
Your feelings are screwing you! I don’t care how you feel!
I care about what you want! And if you listen to how you feel, when it comes to what you want –
you will not get it. Because you will never feel like it. And you need to get outside
your comfort zone. It’s not about taking risks, it’s about getting outside
your comfort zone. Those first three seconds when
you push yourself out of bed, they blow. But once you’re up, it’s great. Those first three seconds when
you’re sitting here in a stadium like this and somebody says,
“Get up and come dance,” and you think,
“Oh, I should do that,” and then you’re like, “Uhmm.” That experience that you had
when you had the impulse to do it and then you didn’t do
the activation energy required to force yourself, your emergency brake got pulled –
“I’m sitting right here. I’m not going up with those
crazy people, I don’t like to dance…” What happened for me is
I came up, and I bumped into Rachel, and then we started talking,
and next thing you know, she’s tweeting. And we’re friends.
And – boom! Get outside. That’s where the magic is. That’s where the one
in four hundred trillion exists. So everything I do –
oh, OK, this is the last part. Sorry. So one more thing that you can use,
I call it the five-second-rule. Your mind can process a facial expression
in 33 milliseconds. It can move pretty damn quick. The other thing that it does very quickly is if you have one of those little
impulses that are pulling you, if you don’t marry it with an action
within five seconds, you pull the emergency brake
and kill the idea. Kill it! If you have the impulse to get up
and come dance while the band is playing, if you don’t stand up in five seconds, you’re going to pull
the emergency brake. If you have an impulse about, you were inspired by somebody’s
speech today, and you don’t do something
within five seconds – write a note, send yourself a text – anything physical to marry it
with the idea, you will pull the emergency brake
and kill the idea. Your problem isn’t ideas.
Your problem is you don’t act on them. You kill them. It’s not my fault.
It’s not anybody’s fault. You’re doing it to yourself.
Stop it! I’m counting on you.
One in four hundred trillion. You got stuff to do! And it’s not going to happen
in your head. So I want you
to practice this today. When we go off to party,
thank God it’s coming soon, because I think
we all could use a cocktail, I want you to practice
the five-second-rule. You see somebody and you think
you have an impulse, they look interesting?
Walk over there! You were inspired by somebody
and you have a request? Make it! That’s why you’re here! Experiment with it, and I think
you’ll be shocked about what happens. And one more thing, I want you to know
that everything that I do, whether it’s the radio show,
or the television show, or the book that I wrote,
or the column, it’s for you. And if there is anything that I can do, if I can do anything to make you do
the things you don’t want to do, so you can have what you want,
I will do it. But you need to walk over,
you need to open your mouth, and you need to make the request. You got it? Good.
Go do it. (Applause) Thank you! Thank you, yes!
Stand up! You have the impulse, stand up!
Thank you!

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100 thoughts on “How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF

  • August 10, 2019 at 9:33 am

    That was an energetic talk save a few cringey moments. Good ideas to think and work over.

  • August 10, 2019 at 2:57 pm


  • August 10, 2019 at 5:02 pm

    Mel had systematic one month free you tube sessions from the New Years onwards, check it out on her channel, it is worth it.
    I liked this in her tedx:

    – when you tell you are fine – you don't have to do anything about it.

    -Any time you do anything different from usual you pull emergency break. It is not normal routine, your mind go to auto pilot. Anything to break from routine requires force.

    -your basic need is not being met – need for exploration. Everything in your body grow, your soul needs growth

  • August 11, 2019 at 12:33 am

    I disagree, this is only one aspect…. you should feel excitement too about doing what will bring positive change … the problem is beleiving in it and being worth it, and this requires the activation energy to pull you through and keep you on track. but the impetus can be natural passion which can happily get you up in the morning

  • August 11, 2019 at 1:35 am


  • August 11, 2019 at 3:47 am

    You are beautiful and exactly right. Our biggest problem is our unwillingness to feel uncomfortable. In it is GROWTH. As we learn and soon we become comfortable again. I have experienced a lifetime of change over the last 7 years, because I used the very things that you said in your talk.

    God bless you!

  • August 12, 2019 at 5:33 am

    I’ve been procrastinating on summer reading all through break, now I’m here watching a TedTalk about getting your life together two days before school starts and I still don’t have it done. I’m fine thanks for asking 🙂

  • August 12, 2019 at 1:00 pm

    I need help with starting a business!

  • August 12, 2019 at 1:48 pm

    Heard this at the right moment! applying the 5-second rule right now as I post this comment…!

  • August 13, 2019 at 2:36 am

    People are their own, worst enemy.

  • August 14, 2019 at 12:39 am

    phenomenal just wonderful, she is amazing.

  • August 14, 2019 at 5:51 am

    There’s many ways for you to get what you want and forcing yourself to do things you really don’t want to do is a recipe for disaster.

  • August 14, 2019 at 6:30 am

    She was educated by ivy? The poor thing…

  • August 14, 2019 at 2:55 pm

    I have see this Video in 2019 and that force me to leave a message right now.

  • August 14, 2019 at 5:02 pm

    You need to get the kids and the dog out of your .bedroom

    Then your husband might get what he wants, ask him how he is? I'm fine…. No he's not he's going along with it to please you. OK I'm not going any further into that conversation.
    But I have seen it wreck a merrage.

    Your children belong in there own beds, they need to learn to be independent .
    Its part of growing up.

  • August 14, 2019 at 6:04 pm

    OMG this was 2011 THINK about the landscape 2019, wow.

  • August 14, 2019 at 6:10 pm

    A great talk she produced in front of people – something everyone needs to work on. Getting out of their comfort zone and doing exactly what they want to do to make themselves and other people happy too in the process. I must thank you Mel Robbins for idealizing and helping people pick themselves up and keep learning. Life may not be always easy but challenges are supposed to be a normal thing to overcome! It makes us learn and become better humans!

  • August 14, 2019 at 8:50 pm

    She sounds like the world's biggest nag.

  • August 15, 2019 at 2:24 am

    That was great presentation. You're the bomb.!

  • August 15, 2019 at 6:38 am

    Reminds me of Jordan Peterson. Both have a similar shrill, insistent, do what I say to achieve happiness, satisfaction etc. But, as others have said here…is that what you take away from the tone and demeanor of this speaker? Also as others have picked up upon here, and I'd concur, she sounds more like the epitome of the absolute opposite. I'm not sure what her achievements are, academically, professionally etc. But, have you never had the experience of meeting or spending a more protracted contact with someone who, if you consider their CV, solely, on paper, have achieved stellar, amazing results, per all of these standard measures, salary etc, and yet, leave you with an indelible impression of precisely that they indeed are unsatisfied, unhappy, hollow (also noted by others here). So, what is going on with people like this, animated to a state of hysteria, showing the white of their eye around the iris, and why on one level do they come across as so phony, unconvincing and, not to labour the point, again, unsatisfied with their life / discontent? This is simply my humble opinion, two cents worth, and may be completely wide of the mark, YMMV. But, have you never come across these people? Perhaps you need longer contact than a TED talk to see it, but the mask does slip.

  • August 15, 2019 at 7:23 am

    i love her energy

  • August 15, 2019 at 8:11 pm

    Such an awesome talk.

    In a nutshell:
    Action leads to motivation — not the other way around.

    And, feelings are signals that a basic need is not being met. Don’t sit in complacency with these feelings — investigate them and take action to improve your situation and to work towards your goals and desires.

  • August 16, 2019 at 1:43 am

    Did anyone else laugh when they read the title of this ted talk while watching a different video at the time? Almost spat out my drink I was just having.

  • August 16, 2019 at 8:48 am

    I love her perspective

  • August 16, 2019 at 1:16 pm

    Mel Robbins is the REAL DEAL! Back in 2017, I was in the process of looking for endorsers for a book I was writing on leadership. After I heard her TED talk and her personal invitation at the end to reach out to her without hesitating – I did! I applied the 5 second rule with her. And guess what… she delivered! She took the time to answer my e-mails and then invited me to send her my manuscript. Even though she was penning her bestselling book 'The 5 Second Rule' at the time, she still took the time to read my book. She loved it and agreed to put her name as an endorser. I will forever hold Mel Robbins in very high esteem for this. She even took the time to thank me months later when I sent her a copy of my book. And trust me, most busy people don't bother with stuff like that. I saved her e-mails as a reminder not only of her kindness, but of how one should proceed to add value to people as well.

  • August 16, 2019 at 6:12 pm

    God created us all so….

  • August 16, 2019 at 7:53 pm

    Beautiful speech.

  • August 16, 2019 at 9:22 pm

    I love this lady!! Straight to the point.

  • August 17, 2019 at 12:15 am

    Great speech.

  • August 17, 2019 at 5:40 am

    This was so motivating. Thank you ❣

  • August 17, 2019 at 8:17 am

    400,000,000,000 isn’t trillion lmfao

  • August 17, 2019 at 10:39 am

    A Billion Angels guiding Marianne Wiliamson for President x

  • August 17, 2019 at 4:02 pm

    Lose weight. Get more money. Find love.. Mmm that's a lot…… But I'm shy.. Not been fine for years!! So true! . I'm listening., getting stronger lol

  • August 17, 2019 at 11:41 pm


  • August 18, 2019 at 1:19 am

    all these 'self help' gurus life coaches are full of bull. tony robbins, this lady mel robbins, blah blah blah. they are all just hot air. all they want to do is sell books, tapes, seminars and more books. byron katie is your answer and she gives it all away for ….wait for it….free. google her name and thank me later.

  • August 18, 2019 at 9:05 pm

    The odds of me being born are 100% since it happened.

  • August 18, 2019 at 9:15 pm

    She sounds like Rachel from Friends

  • August 19, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    She kept saying 400 trillion, but her slide showed 400 billion.

  • August 20, 2019 at 3:51 am

    Procrastinate later?

  • August 20, 2019 at 4:15 am

    Will you give give give give give give how many times you give it at many times one time it is not truth . What you give it zero now so far big zero .what you give it when you give it always work on work work work in half decade. No help give it give it 100 times give it what give it don't say lyeing your self Only presentation . You fail they fail allways fail what can I do now ? You help is amazing in negatively . Yshk viswanatham MscBed.

  • August 20, 2019 at 4:19 am

    You created problems if it is settel then I think it another way but you fail in many times. It is not countable infinative times fail your . What you give it it is not simple you fail in every times yesterday create more why you do same manner do it . Who is the benfited yourself. Yshk viswanatham MscBed.

  • August 20, 2019 at 9:58 am

    can i just say i love doug´s choice of wardrobe

  • August 20, 2019 at 12:29 pm

    Get up and dance now

  • August 20, 2019 at 2:55 pm

    I wish I could pay this woman to come by my house every other day for a month at least. I’ve been stuck in this depression for 4 years now. I do have a health condition that causes chronic fatigue and joint pain (among other things, it’s rare) but it’s the depression & hopelessness that keeps me immobilized. Part of it was being raised by a parent who, while well intentioned did too much for me growing up. So here I am, in my early 30’s, stuck in cement unable to do/try basic things I see teens & 20 somethings doing everyday. Parents, let your kids do stuff for themselves. Help & love but don’t over-help. It creates a dependency on you that your child will struggle to outgrow. Even if they fail, just encourage them to try again but don’t fix it for them (at least not everytime). I know I can overcome this. I have a great spouse & parent who love me. I just want this amazing woman’s motivation for change so badly!

  • August 20, 2019 at 3:41 pm

    You havent helped yet

  • August 20, 2019 at 3:45 pm

    Amazing ! This is my first time to listening Mel Robbins, and it is great, I really like the way how she inspire others, to change they life, for good.

  • August 20, 2019 at 3:58 pm

    Im going fishing

  • August 20, 2019 at 6:35 pm

    listened to this with audio and captions off. Excellent points made. This girl is brilliant. I like the part where she did that thing with her hand

  • August 20, 2019 at 10:51 pm

    She's great, but I hate the fact that she makes it sound like motivation and initiative is all that's required as if opportunity and external factors weren't able to prevent you from achieving even when you try so hard and go after things, specially for non-privileged people

  • August 21, 2019 at 2:01 am

    9:48 He looks like he hasn’t slept proper in years. He should stop screwing himself over and demand Better pillows and a bigger section of the bed.

  • August 21, 2019 at 5:05 am

    I really needed to hear this.. so happy I found this on accident

  • August 21, 2019 at 7:52 am

    Jesus Christ I needed to hear this so badly!

  • August 21, 2019 at 5:45 pm


  • August 21, 2019 at 7:02 pm

    This is very inspirational. I am that kind of person who let the oppurtunities walks by because 'i don't feel like doing it'..and this video give me an epiphany. Thankyou so much.

  • August 21, 2019 at 7:18 pm

    great insight thanks Robbins

  • August 22, 2019 at 6:11 am

    never found free anything online that was worthwhile or for real

  • August 22, 2019 at 6:59 am

    The number that was flashed on the screen regarding the odds of an audience member being born is 400 billion. She says it’s 400 trillion. I don’t know which one is right.

  • August 22, 2019 at 5:55 pm

    Her confidence and presence is admirable. It must have taken a lot of practice to speak this well.

  • August 22, 2019 at 7:13 pm

    Everything that we need is readily available. There are no excuses. It's not easy yet it's possible. We have to express how we really feel. Life is a gift. Let's embrace it. Fine is not enough. Mel, Thank you.

  • August 22, 2019 at 10:42 pm

    Yes, but if we're doing it all wrong, why are we programmed this way?
    That woman texting at 16:00 was straight out of The Simpsons!

  • August 22, 2019 at 11:47 pm

    She literally described my work day lol my job is sooo slow and boring I can’t take it some days. This is why I’m enrolling to be a vet tech so I can have a job where I can actually learn and use my mind. I’m craving to learn!!

  • August 23, 2019 at 12:42 am

    if only mental disorders didn't exist.. well that'd be a problem cause then there'd be way less poor people for the rich to walk all over.

  • August 23, 2019 at 3:41 am

    I don’t even know what made me watch this video. I have had the time on my alarm clock set for an hour ahead for years. Because, once upon a time I thought it would be genius to be able to hit snooze 6 times. I just set the time to the actual time and I am not going to hit snooze.
    Good night!

  • August 23, 2019 at 9:26 am

    5seconds! Okay! I’m gonna count to 5 every time I feel like doing something 🙏🏻

  • August 23, 2019 at 12:28 pm


  • August 23, 2019 at 12:56 pm

    Very thankful she isn't my mother. She the type that will embarrass you in class

  • August 23, 2019 at 6:00 pm


  • August 23, 2019 at 9:31 pm

    THANK YOU!!!

  • August 24, 2019 at 1:53 am

    I love this video hands down…my question is how do you program your mind to be positive or lift your self or raise the energy if you are getting hit with Psychotronic weapons or REMOTE NEURAL MONITORING 24/7 attacking your thought and your brains

    I want to be a normal person so that I can lift and think and be free of these weapons just like everyone else but how do you become free from these kind of weapons ….Can someone help? Does anyone have an answer? Can you google Remote Neural Monitoring or Psychotronic Weapons and see if you can help Millions of people that are getting targeted every day 24/7 that have NO HELP….Can you explain how can I become free of pain and/or I don't have to get up every morning to these pain and suffering all day long…..I wait for your reply………

  • August 24, 2019 at 2:33 am

    I want to move to Africa – Tanzania to build a 2nd school.
    I’m in school myself for few more months.

  • August 24, 2019 at 12:50 pm

    6:22 👏👏👏

  • August 24, 2019 at 5:05 pm

    The audience looked so glum lol

  • August 24, 2019 at 6:33 pm

    How unlucky was I to be born , it's like an unlucky lottery that I won 🙄🙄🙄

  • August 24, 2019 at 6:46 pm

    May the force be with you.. 😛

  • August 25, 2019 at 12:21 am

    For the longest time I avoided Mel Robbins because I thought her husband was Tony. Boy, goes to show how many mistakes I've made in my life and opportunities I've lost by judging people. Shame one me.

  • August 25, 2019 at 4:10 am

    But how do I know what I want!

  • August 25, 2019 at 10:16 am

    Beautiful lady

  • August 25, 2019 at 12:16 pm

    Don't jive with ur vibe lady

    Too hyper for me.
    Endorphin + Gingko overload?

  • August 25, 2019 at 12:25 pm

    What is wrong with you why pacing like a human in a cage ?
    Your goal is to be Media Corp Patsy? Give talks on Ted X?

  • August 25, 2019 at 1:34 pm

    1 in 400 trillion? LOL. More like 1 in a googolplex. Good talk anyways!

  • August 25, 2019 at 4:09 pm

    OMG this is a deal breaker for me. I will never give up. Who is with me on this?

  • August 25, 2019 at 7:41 pm

    Loved it. The words I need to hear.

  • August 26, 2019 at 5:11 am

    looooooooooool manboobs yeh

  • August 26, 2019 at 7:30 am

    What a great talk

  • August 26, 2019 at 7:45 am

    I don’t mean this to be a downer in any way, but when she said “1 in 400 trillion” it just made me feel incredibly insignificant 😂 I know that was supposed to be motivating but those numbers just seem arbitrary. No I’m not a pessimist

  • August 26, 2019 at 8:26 am

    Thank you! I love this talk! I am anything but FINE. I am motivated!

  • August 26, 2019 at 4:14 pm

    this was everything i needed to hear

  • August 26, 2019 at 9:17 pm

    cough attention seeker cough
    This feels like some all inclusive hotel entertainment show mixed with self help ideas from all those fancy books..
    Somehow I still liked it a bit ^^

  • August 27, 2019 at 2:52 am

    the goddess of motivational speaking

  • August 27, 2019 at 10:31 am

    luv u

  • August 27, 2019 at 3:47 pm

    I'm not kidding, I'm serious. I have absolutely no idea what the point of this video was. That people have unmet needs? That it matters if their needs are not met? That people should get up earlier in the morning for some reason? That every impulse people have is good? I'm confused.

    I mean she's a really attractive charming lady but if I met her I'd say "Can you please tell me what that was all about? Is it some kind of spiritual growth pep talk or something? Is that supposed to meaningfully change people's lives or something?".

  • August 27, 2019 at 7:01 pm

    Same here im not happy with my life 😥

  • August 27, 2019 at 8:17 pm

    "You have life changing ideas for a reason; and it's not to torture yourself" – I think I'll put that on my workshop wall.

  • August 28, 2019 at 1:58 am

    So inspiring! Thank YOU!

  • August 28, 2019 at 6:15 am

    I have this entire ted tell run through me mind every time I wake up for fajr in the the morning lol

  • August 28, 2019 at 10:11 am

    trillion = billion

  • August 28, 2019 at 3:23 pm

    She’s a GREAT public speaker! ( I’m saying it within 5 seconds)


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