Salut YouTube, I’m Rosie I’m a New Zealander living in France which is definitely a story for another time and today I wanted to tackle one of the biggest stereotypes about the French people and one of the most googled Things about the French people of all time, which is why are the French so rude? So in this video, I’ll be exploring where I think the stereotype came from some potential cultural explanations for this phenomenon and some simple tips so that if you’re in France you can avoid situations in which the French Unleash the rudeness on you Also guys, I’m just starting out on YouTube so if you like what you see Please give this video a thumbs up or hit subscribe to show me some love So, where is this stereotype coming from? Well, I have to say I think a large part is coming from tourists visiting Paris in particular and interacting with people and service-based roles Travel websites like Skyscanner have ranked France as the number one rudest destination and TripAdvisor forums are overflowing with complaints about French rudeness and a lack of customer service I do tend to believe that when there’s smoke There’s fire to some extent Firstly because French people themselves even joke or talk about Parisians as being less friendly more stressed Maybe a little bit more distant than other French people so there’s a little bit of a stereotype anyway happening within the country Secondly even the French foreign ministers have launched multi-million euro campaigns Trying to get French people working in service facing roles to be warmer to tourists In 2009 there was the famous “Smile” campaign which is pretty self-explanatory And more recently we’ve had a campaign called “Do you speak touriste?” and for those of you who speak French, I will link that down below because it’s kind of hilarious and thirdly after living here for four years. Yes I have encountered some really rude people Including a postal worker who literally bought me, an adult woman, to tears because she was just so mean I will never forget you lady!! but I will say that, in general, French people (and even the Parisians) are polite kind and respectful people 99.99999% of the time, and if you encounter otherwise it’s probably one big cultural misunderstanding. So that being said let’s jump into the four reasons where you may perceive a French person to be rude when in fact They’re just being…French What you need to know is that French people are coconuts Yep coconuts! According to German American psychologist Kurt Lewin, the world can be roughly divided into two kinds of people Peaches and coconuts Peaches are all warm and fuzzy on the outside. They share personal stories quickly They’re the kind of people that open up, laugh a lot, invite you around to their house after 24 hours But if you’re trying to dig deeper and really become one of those best friends forever You’re gonna eventually hit a tough inner shell That’s very hard to get into and it’s a special place really reserved for their closest friends and family Coconuts, like the French, May seem colder and distant at first because they’ve got a tough outer shell that you need to crack into but once you crack that shell you’re gonna get into the nice lush inner coconut and What we often say amongst ourselves as expats in France is that it’s really hard to make friends here But once you do make a friend you’ll soon realize that Your most loyal trustworthy and open friends and they’re real friends for life But as strangers visiting France or people who have just moved to France you might find it takes a lot of time To get through that tough outer shell. It’s exactly the same concept when it comes to getting chatty with strangers. In New Zealand you can get chatty with anyone, you can open up to the person sitting beside you on the bus You can tell your whole life story to your hairdresser. When I think about it sometimes I wonder if my hairdresser in New Zealand knew more about me than my own mother But in France, less so. Making chitchat with strangers isn’t really common So just imagine you’re in a restaurant and you see a lovely French couple sitting beside you. They probably don’t want to hear about your arthritis or your son Jimmy who’s backpacking around South America at the moment Honestly for French people in this kind of setting they’re like why are you speaking to me like this? We don’t know each other Can I please have my privacy and you keep your privacy? Let’s respect that. French people in general, I think don’t want to act fake They don’t want to act like they’ve known you for the past ten years and that you’re best mates when it’s just simply not the case for them. That would be a little bit hyporcritical. So long story short the French aren’t actually being rude here. When they treat you with a little bit of Distance and formality, that’s being respectful. It may come across as icy, but it’s definitely not done with menace or bad intention So there’s definitely a thing in France where people think that the waiters are being rude and inattentive Because the service is so slow and they’ve actually looked into this so they did a study timing the average time it took from a client sitting down at a table to being served a glass of water in London eateries and in Parisian eateries and what they found is that in London it took an average of 3.4 minutes to get served and in Paris it took a grand total of 17.9 minutes on average But I can explain! In France taking your time to enjoy your food is crucial This is why we have our famous one-hour lunch breaks. It’s an important moment to share good food good times with the people around you and to build relationships If you think about it from a business perspective of course It makes more sense to treat it like a factory get clients in out Super speedy service, clear out that table one after the other To get more money in and so if you think about it from that way, they’re actually being really nice I’ve also heard people question: Well, maybe it’s because they don’t get paid tips maybe that’s why the service is so slow But I would challenge that to be honest because back in New Zealand our service is super speedy and we don’t get paid tips I really think it’s a cultural thing and I really think it’s around the way you do business. In saying all of this of course if you’re in a rush, you can tell the waiter upfront, and it’s usually no problem at all. Point number 3 is that in France the customer is not the king. I know in the anglo-saxon world especially We’re used to this old-age adage of the customer is always right you know if they want my hard-earned money then they better work for it, but in France this really isn’t the case. In France the server doesn’t want your money, He wants his dignity. You’ve got to remember that France is a very hierarchical society even 220 years after the Revolution and even with their motto of égalité French people are implicitly aware of their status in society So even though you’re probably not thinking it a French waiter may automatically feel a little bit lower in society if he’s serving you and He wants to feel like he’s an individual, and he’s an individual interacting with an individual and that It’s an equal playing field and that being said you’ll also find in France that sales people will not bend over backwards and kiss your butt to get a sale That kind of behavior may earn respect in other parts of the world But here it’s seen as being really degrading. That’s another reason why it’s totally counterproductive to try and rush a Parisian waiter – he is not your garçon His ethos is that the more you try and rush me the longer I will take. However if you treat the waiter like an equal – as he deserves to be treated obviously – and ask his advice Perhaps for the food or the wine list I’m sure you’ll get a much warmer reception The fourth and final point that I want to bring up is that Parisians have a tourist hangover. France is the most popular tourist destination in the world every year receiving around 85 million visitors of which Paris takes 20 million of these. The local population of Paris is 2.2 million so to take on 20 million extra per year is enormous. On top of that Paris is a very crowded and dense city as it is. There are 21 thousand inhabitants per square kilometer Compared to London for example who have just 5 thousand inhabitants per square kilometer so yes Parisians can occasionally get tired of tourists and in Paris we tend to work really long hours much longer than the 35-hour week I assure you and the average commute is one hour as well so I wouldn’t be surprised if a Parisian comes across as a little bit stressed or impatient if you go up to them during their morning commute, their evenings when they’re trying to get home or during the busy lunch hour and ask them for advice or directions They may not come across as the most chilled and friendliest people in the world But if you do have to approach a Parisian on the street, just remember this old Concept of etiquette! Be courteous and say “Bonjour, Parlez-vous anglais?” And I promise ninety-nine percent of the time you will not get attitude. Of course most Parisians do speak English But I think it’s really important to say Bonjour at first because it shows that you’re making an effort in their country and that you’re not assuming that they will speak English to you. Parisians are not even snappy with the tourists in general They’re snappy even with French people if you forget these basic rules of social conduct. I had a French friend the other day We were going down into the metro and they had a big suitcase with them So they needed to go through the special doors the big wide doors that allow the suitcases to pass through now the man who’s in control of opening these bigger doors was on the phone and So my French friend was waving out saying “La porte s’il vous plaît” – The door please – and the guy stopped speaking he took his phone away from his face, and he was like Do you want to say hello first or….? afterwards I was like oh gosh that guy Why did he have to be in such a bad mood and my French friend was like no no no I was in the wrong. I should have said Bonjour. I was rushed I saw him on the phone I just assumed he wouldn’t want to be interrupted, but I should have said Bonjour So now I’m gonna zip through just quickly five simple rules that will help to reduce any risk of French rudeness by at least 72 percent So the first is what I call the holy trinity Bonjour merci, au revoir If you can remember these three French words you’ll be fine. You say bonjour Whenever you go into a store a restaurant you ask people for advice directions, etc and at anytime you kind of enter a closed space with people so whether that be an elevator or a doctor’s office you will also say Bonjour Merci, thank you, is pretty self-explanatory and au revoir Whenever you leave said restaurant shop etc bonus points if you throw bonne journée in there too. No. 2, don’t think of Paris as a store where the Customer is always right and money talks – those cultural norms do not apply in France Instead think of Paris as a gracious host Who has welcomed you into her home. Be a charming guest and you’ll be warmly embraced. Tip number 3 is always be nice to waiters. They don’t need your tip to survive So the only way that you’re going to make them be nice with you is to be nice to them first Also, don’t mistake a French waiter who’s teasing you as being rude I know that sometimes French waiters love to tease their customers especially the foreign ones and Maybe this isn’t something you’re used to especially if you’re from the States because waiters don’t really dare to tease and joke with you So much, because they’re running on the tips but the French waiter here is definitely not intending to be rude They’re just having a little bit of fun with you Tip no. 4 is that if a conversation does ensue with the French person or French people just chill out a little bit. Don’t be too loud or giggly or use hyperbole too much. These are kind of marks of Simpletons in France for lack of finding another way to explain it so try to keep things a little bit more chilled, refined and speak at a less “Excited” level. Tip no. 5 is don’t take things too personally You know if you do encounter a rude french waiter They’re not sitting there saying oh, I know that Janet’s come all the way here from Brazil I can’t wait to ruin her holiday. 9 out of the10 times. It’s not about you at all I think we should all have a bit of empathy for French waiters especially in Paris overwhelmed with the tourist traffic and very likely to be overworked and underpaid So try and think about it from that perspective first before taking things personally In conclusion I think it’s high time that we kill this stereotype. The root of the problem is not that French people are rude It’s that we all have different cultural Interpretations on events and cultural norms when it comes to interacting with each other. If you’re polite and not Condescending and you remember the Holy Trinity – “bonjour, merci, au revoir”, I think you’ll find that the French icy exterior melts and they’ll go the extra mile to help. so the next time you have a problem with a French person and you wonder Was that French person just being? Really rude to me?? Try and think about the things that you spoke about in this video to assess the situation first And if you conclude that yes, they were being really rude It’s probably true Rude people do exist in this world, but probably not all of them in France or Paris!

ARE FRENCH PEOPLE RUDE?! Exploring the stereotype in depth

100 thoughts on “ARE FRENCH PEOPLE RUDE?! Exploring the stereotype in depth

  • October 28, 2017 at 9:04 am
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    VIDEO GUIDE:
    1. Where is this stereotype coming from? "00:57"
    2. The four major cultural misunderstandings "02:42"
    – French people are coconuts "02:56"
    – French service is slower "05:26"
    – The customer is not the king "07:02"
    – Parisians and the tourist hangover "08:32"
    3. Tips and tricks for avoiding any "rudeness" "11:13"
    4. Conclusion/final thoughts "14:05"

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  • March 22, 2019 at 4:32 am
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    Wow thanks for the infos! I have been teased a lot by waiters in Paris, who made fun of my bright red hair or accent (I'm from Quebec, the french province of Canada) and I was wondering wow, what am I doing wrong? Apparently nothing, it's just their sense of humor. I've noticed French people like a good conversation, or even a debate while we, here, prefer to avoid anything that might look like confrontation.

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  • March 23, 2019 at 11:55 pm
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    I live in GUatemala in a tourist town. Here one gets a menu almost right away. However, at the end of the meal what kicks in is what you describe…they are very polite, they want you to enjoy yourself they are not into turning over the table to get another customer at the table. Americans in particular sit around waiting…and waiting…and waiting for the serving person to give them the check. It will literally NEVER some until you ASK for it. It is considered very rude here to give clients a check as if to say, right you ate it , now pay up and leave! THey just will not give you the check til you ASK for it.

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  • March 24, 2019 at 7:30 pm
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    This was such a great video. I learned that one I am a total coconut and two I COMPLETELY understand and would love to live in such a society as what you describe in France. As an American I suppose I can sometimes be misunderstood as rude myself lol. I hate small talk, fakeness and people vomiting their life stories when we met 2 seconds ago. And believe me working in the medical field which is basically another form of customer service job, I hate that I have to be expected to be crapped on everyday day because most Americans are so entitled and have the customer is ALWAYS right mentality even if they're being complete A*holes. I hate to see people be mean to waiters/ waitress or any position because again goes back to the whole I'm customer and king mentality. I don't like small talk and pretend we're best buds or to care about your life after 2 seconds but I try my best to treat everyone respectfully and try to be understanding of situations. I so don't belong in this society lol

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  • March 26, 2019 at 8:46 pm
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    Bonjour Elle est moins fraîche

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  • March 28, 2019 at 7:00 pm
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    I have been to Paris 5 times and have never encountered any rudeness, in fact, several times I have stopped to look at a map, someone has stopped and asked if I needed help finding something. (Although, I was just in Brussels and forgot to say "bonjour" before speaking to a person at the counter at a museum, and she was a little bit rude and said "bonjour" to me with a certain look, but her rudeness was because I had failed to say 'bonjour' to her before asking my question. So I understood that.)

    As she says in the video, some people may be annoyed by all the tourists, and if you stop a random person in the street and ask for direction, or ask when a certain museum is open, you will probably get an annoyed answer because people although they live in Paris, they may not know the specific hours of museums, etc.

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  • March 29, 2019 at 6:18 pm
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    You are really good at putting words on cultural differences. I like watching your videos. Cheers.

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  • March 29, 2019 at 6:28 pm
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    By the way, about the fact that French people are also scared of talking with people they don't know, I have read an interesting explanation, saying that this relates to WW2, when German army occupied France. At that time, there were people who resisted to the German soldiers (Résistants = heroes) and some people who collaborated with Germans (Collabos = traitors), while some French people denounced and gave Résistants to German police (meaning torture or death penalty), creating a strong suspicious and fear atmosphere among French people in the country during like 4 years. And this mistrust trauma remained strong and could explain why people do not talk each other while they don't know already…

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  • March 31, 2019 at 8:48 am
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    Unfortunately some people really are rude.. 7 years ago in Paris I went to Starbucks with a group of international friends and a waiter asked me my name and where I am from. When I told him, he commented "Poor name for a poor country". I was so shocked and just said "What did you say?" He said "Nothing", and faked a big smile 🙁

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  • April 2, 2019 at 6:58 pm
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    "The customer is not the king", as a french waiter myself, I would like to thank you about that whole part ! You're so right ! In this work, I meet a lot of very rude people (and a lot of very nice ones thankfully !) and I admit I can be very cold to them if i feel like they're disrespecting me (or at least, not respecting me enough). But if they're polite and kind, I will imediatly be a lot warmer and cheerful.

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  • April 4, 2019 at 12:48 pm
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    Correction: Waiters definitely tease people in the states.

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  • April 9, 2019 at 12:21 am
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    this is a beautiful explanation.

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  • April 9, 2019 at 6:05 am
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    I suggest that tourists should not ask a Parisian if they speak English because they are likely to say non! Having said that, the first Parisian I ever spoke to was a sweet waiter in a small cafe in the 11th and he really did not speak English–not many tourists in the 11th. He certainly got a few laughs from my bad French, but I do know a lot of food words so I got my meal and some wine! Anyway, I usually apologize for my French and that breaks the ice. And yes, bonjour, merci, au revoir, etc. go a long way.

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  • April 9, 2019 at 4:58 pm
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    The French character is really unique. French are so "rude" that you ironically end up loving them so much. Oh well, et la langue aussi.

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  • April 10, 2019 at 8:15 am
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    This is very true. Please try these three phrases. Just slow down and be patient. Do not go to France and expect speedy service! It is not the way. Why are you in a rush anyway? You are on vacation!

    If you wait until you are starving, you are traveling wrong! Keep a quick snack from market in your pocket. You will be happier.

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  • April 10, 2019 at 6:38 pm
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    Thank you sooooo much for this video… and the others by the way. Finally someone who clarifies it! You totally understand the country you are leaving in.

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  • April 14, 2019 at 5:10 pm
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    Well done! A refreshingly intelligent, common sense approach. From someone who has lived in Paris. Merci beaucoup.

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  • April 16, 2019 at 12:04 pm
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    Thank you for the video! It was really helpful. I am French from French Polynesia, and as French people we also find it difficult to accommodate with the French attitude, and more specifically Paris. We often find people "rude", self centered, "angry", always with a negative vision… but as you said it is also cultural, and like in every country you have to enter with respect and take in a little bit of the country you are in. Thank you for the video, hearing other people from the world what they think about France helps me understand some thinks also. Have a lovely day

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  • April 17, 2019 at 11:03 am
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    I never encountered a rude Parisian, as an American or English speaker, I always made sure I spoke French with them, they do appreciate it greatly! Even if you’re not fluent, make some effort to learn the basics as described in this video.

    Please do not make fun of them or their FOOD, France has amazing food, build a quick rapport with your waiter and ask for their opinion.
    Don’t insult them by asking for ketchup or a hamburger and French fries! Be adventurous and eat real French food and wine, no Pepsi!

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  • April 19, 2019 at 6:45 am
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    I am glad you mentioned cultural differences. I've been living in France for twelve years and have yet to experience rudeness. My observations from life and travel is that people respond to how we treat them.

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  • April 24, 2019 at 11:05 pm
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    Why are Americans so rude? Because, THEY GET THEIR TROPHIES FOR SHOWING UP!!!

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  • April 27, 2019 at 12:07 am
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    all french call me the N word even tho i am not black. idk about them being polite

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  • April 30, 2019 at 1:54 pm
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    The golden rule to absolutely know is saying BONJOUR. You can't start talking to anybody if you don't say it. Period !

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  • May 2, 2019 at 5:31 am
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    The customers are not always right but they're never wrong

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  • May 3, 2019 at 12:09 am
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    Is not rude, not talking to you is a sign of polite in France… For example, in China if you look at a person to their eyes, it’s a sign of provocation… While in France, look a person to their eyes it’s a sign that you listen to him and you are attentif to what he said…

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  • May 3, 2019 at 2:11 am
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    american restaurants take it to another extreme. I was asked for my drink order before I even sat down. I have been handed a menu before I even took my coat off. My plate is whisked away before I finish chewing. The bill is presented without me asking for it and the restaurant is half empty.

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  • May 7, 2019 at 2:02 pm
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    Je suis assez épaté par ta connaissance des Français. Tu as une grande ouverture d'esprit, et on sent que tu as fait l'effort de t'intégrer. Félicitations, vraiment !

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  • May 9, 2019 at 12:53 pm
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    I just got done chatting with a French woman who did nothing but trash talk my country. This was the first thing she brought up.

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  • May 9, 2019 at 12:54 pm
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    When I'm friendly to strangers it's authentic. 🇺🇸

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  • May 9, 2019 at 2:41 pm
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    I'm french, and my friends love me and never called me rude, we make fun of the sterotypes.

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  • May 12, 2019 at 10:39 am
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    One hour lunch break ?? the places I wait at all have two hours at least.

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  • May 13, 2019 at 10:06 pm
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    As a French born and bred in Paris and coming from a very Parisian family: THE FRENCH ARE RUDE. In Paris especially. And it's not because they are tired or too busy. No, they are rude, and the more I travel abroad, the more I realise that. And be sure that they are also rude to the French people, it's not a question of being a tourist or not. If I may say so – and I dont want to say your video is inadequate because you made a few very subtle observations – the problem with the French is much deeper than you want to believe. To summarize the problem: the French are not nice. They are snobbish, formal, sexist, they complain a lot, they are grumpy, miserable, and rude by principle. Of course, I am not talking about private relationships with friends and family, I am talking about the interactions in society in general, with people you dont know and whom you have just met, or at work etc. Also you may not realise the extent to which French society is conflictual (between classes, the rich and the poor..), which is also a cultural trait coming from the French Revolution, a trauma which I think still marks the generations of today. However, you are right to say the French ppl have to be "seduced" and then they can become super nice, but only if she / he, likes you. Traveling through the US, Canada, Japan, Western Europe (the UK typically), Africa, I have never met such rude people as the French. Well… apart from that, the French are intelligent and have plenty of qualities…And of course you will also meet lots of very nice people, but mainly, the level of rudeness is high. We really need to learn what customer service means. I hope I was not too rude with my comment on your video 🙂 Take care and enjoy the French people – by making friends with them in the private circle ! Apart from that, rudeness from waitresses or employees of the public service, etc, should not be tolerated.

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  • May 15, 2019 at 8:37 pm
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    Being from the midwestern United States and anyway being decidedly old-fashioned about certain things, good manners are very important to me. Though I had spent several weeks in Brittany in the mid-1990s and had had nothing but good experiences, it had been over twenty years since I had last been in France when I went back in 2017 for the summer. I must say that when it came to French rudeness, I was in for a real shock!

    Now, this may come down to my own expectations when dealing with people (I always assume politeness and decency to be the norm), apart from a very busy man at one of the main train stations in Paris who was understandably a TINY bit short with a confused non-native speaker like me, I must say that I found the French to be EXCEPTIONALLY polite, welcoming, helpful, encouraging, hospitable and agreeable (yes, even in Paris!). The closest anyone ever really came to rudeness was the one person in twenty who could tell that I was a foreigner and would respond to my French in English. And even that was never done with an air of impatience or rudeness, just expediency. And indeed, though I was learning on the fly, a number of people went out of their way to help me with my French and would even compliment me on my efforts (one woman in a bakery complimenting me on my "syntax", which delighted me no end!).

    In short, if you are cool, polite and have a go at their language (however haltingly), you would have to have either really bad luck or really bad karma to be treated rudely in France.

    Absolutely lovely people, the French.

    (Go to German-speaking Switzerland if you are looking for baseless rudeness! They're the TRUE Jedi knights of bad manners!)

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  • May 16, 2019 at 3:08 am
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    I met a girl in a French bakery man oh man I fall in love right away lol

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  • May 16, 2019 at 11:08 pm
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    Your beauty and kind manners entertain me. Thank you. I hope to live in Paris one day, I keep learning from you. <3

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  • May 18, 2019 at 6:13 pm
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    The Brits talk about how rude they are to each other too. Lol

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  • May 18, 2019 at 6:16 pm
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    Gay culture is all coconuts, sucks.

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  • May 18, 2019 at 6:17 pm
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    I had a waiter change my plate order cause I ate the wrong plate first. Fork in hand heading toward the plate, then swap.

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  • May 18, 2019 at 6:25 pm
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    So the holy trinity in the bathroom? 🙂

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  • May 19, 2019 at 8:13 pm
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    I’m an American coconut, no wonder why I feel at home in France. Politeness and formality go a long way in my book.

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  • May 21, 2019 at 4:39 pm
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    I'm of French descent and have lived abroad. I must say that in large cities anywhere, folks are in a hurry. Those are business districts and rushing about is the order of the day. The suburban or country area outside areas outside the cities is more relaxed and more chattier, everywhere! Seriously. However, good to know the different languages in the country one visits.

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  • May 23, 2019 at 7:32 pm
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    I looooove your accent!

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  • May 26, 2019 at 2:43 pm
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    Bonjour you made this fun and educational; and you are charming. Merci

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  • May 26, 2019 at 3:06 pm
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    I have been to Cannes, Monaco and Paris. Parisians are RUDE!!

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  • May 28, 2019 at 5:12 pm
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    I searched "french people" to understand my french homemates in Japan. But idk… after watching video I get that French are all good if I respect their individuality, but they don't seem to respect me and my opinion. I know "freedom" is very important thing but what I saw is judging people(I do not understand French, but I could get it by some english worlds and the context), ignore the person in front of them, and breaking so many rules. It is really hard to tell them 'be quiet at midnight', 'tidy up things after use'. I'm pretty sure I was very careful to tell this messages, but they get all offensive about it and start attacking me with something I didn't do, and the sudden attack happens at midnight, knocking on my door ….my god..Is there a concept of personal spaces??
    I did visit Paris for travel, had horrible human experience there, and incredibly rude homemates. I was unlucky to have only bad experiences but man.. Now it is traumatizing. 🙁

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  • May 28, 2019 at 11:25 pm
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    Lol the Chinese are far worse when it comes to rudeness

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  • May 29, 2019 at 1:52 pm
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    Trop de clients n'ont-ils pas tendance à confondre "serveur" et "serviteur" ?
    C'est de mauvais goût d'imposer sa présence et, parfois, ses caprices "de star", sous prétexte que l'on vient dépenser de l'argent.

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  • May 30, 2019 at 5:31 pm
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    I think I would like France. I hate making chit-chat with strangers unless I actually like have something meaningful to say or bring up. I prefer people who are genuine versus people who are just warm and friendly on the outside but really don't care either way. I agree that the customer is not king and that the customer isn't always right. Some customers can be entitled a**holes.

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  • May 31, 2019 at 5:34 pm
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    On est pas grossier, cassez pas les couilles !

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  • June 2, 2019 at 12:16 am
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    GET OUT OF PARIS!Do you think all USA people are polite?  Do you?Do you think all Brits are polite?  Do you?Not all Italians are glad to see tourists.  Some Italiansin Rome are total bastards.  Same with Viennese.  Some people in Brasil are total shits.  They're not all welcoming.Be polite, not syrupy but genuine.  I've never had a problem in France.  I found Strasbourg one of the mostwonderful of places.  I never had a problem in the Netherlands….though I'm sure they've gotasses there too.

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  • June 2, 2019 at 9:32 pm
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    After 15 minutes yes I learned how rude and they are, really I just couldn't imagine how small they feel about themselves to force people to pay that much attention and reverence

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  • June 7, 2019 at 3:51 pm
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    I traveled all over france including paris. The rudest people I met were American Tourists. French people are actually very nice people. But they don't put up with crap. If you act arrogant and demanding toward them, they're not gonna hesitate to snap back. I think Americans especially are too used to being catered to and they're often shocked when they go to other countries where people don't put up with it.

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  • June 10, 2019 at 3:04 pm
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    I really do relate to that coconut parable. A lot of what you said could be paralleled in the American Midwest to me a, cause a lot of the people out here can seem really standoffish and incredibly rude. But once you become friends with them, they would drive out to the middle of nowhere for you just to help you with a flat tire. People like that are often very tough to get behind for a lot of extroverts like myself, but growing up in the Midwest I had a little bit more of an advantage.

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  • June 10, 2019 at 5:21 pm
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    I know not all French are rude and I'm not a tourist but when I went to Disney (in Paris) I was watching the fire works two girls pushed in saying something I did not understand so my lil bro could not see they were speaking French to me and I could not say anything but they never gave up on me, they kept trying to talk to me now I think of it I should of said "English" in a French accent but I did not and they were obi practising English for me! Bless them! I could tell because they were saying English words that did not make sense together and they were saying it very poorly,but they were making and effort. But the second time I saw them their were two patches of grass they were raised and had railing around them with flowers inside and it was just one of them things that you knew you weren't allowed to go in whilst I was seeing the fire works French people climed over the railing and so we could not see so that ruined our night..

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  • June 14, 2019 at 7:22 am
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    Not sure if this is the video but on one of them you talked about how French people can be impatient and will cut in front of you in line and huff and sigh as well. My very first hour in France, specifically while waiting in line to go through customs, the guy behind did all of that. He wasn’t successful in cutting in front of me because I was on to him and subtlety wouldn’t let him. He eventually gave up but continued to huff and sigh. In his defense (not really) we had already been in line about half an hour and still had what turned out to be more than an hour in line total. This is by far the longest line I’ve had to wait in to get through customs. Even Tokyo was way faster. I do understand this guy’s frustration. I’m not patient either, but we all were suffering. This encounter made me smile because of your video. ☺️

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  • June 23, 2019 at 4:41 am
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    I am an Arab. I’ve been to France 🇫🇷 and I’ve never been experienced redness. I think 🤔 it depends on u , as well, Cheri!😜

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  • June 24, 2019 at 12:33 pm
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    I'm a Kiwi too. We've been on a few big 2-3 week self-drive road trips through France over the last 25 years. Ordinary French people are among the warmest & nicest people you could meet in our experience. I'm talking about shopkeepers, cafe wrkrs, motorway services people & so on. Always smiling, friendly & upbeat. More so than in most other Euro countries. We were very impressed.

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  • June 28, 2019 at 10:01 pm
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    On point, but remember, the tips are for parisians, for the rest of France, it's much easier

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  • July 3, 2019 at 1:48 pm
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    They're rude cuz they forgot about their uncle Hitler

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  • July 5, 2019 at 6:34 pm
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    Thanks for this video. I've been in France for 10 days now and while most interactions I've had have been fine there have been a bad few that have left a sour taste in my mouth. This a good reminder to not let it get to me!

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  • July 6, 2019 at 11:58 am
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    Non les parisiens sont impolis les parisiens sont des trous du cul répétez après moi les parisiens sont des trous du cul. 😀

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  • July 7, 2019 at 6:38 am
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    AHH Merci Boucoup! Les parents en France sont trés stricts parce qu'ils veulent que les enfants soient polis. Un exemple est la façon dont nous gardons toujours le dos droit, demandes de sortire la table, positionez nous argenterie de manière à signaler si nous avon fini ou si nous voulon plus, attendez de commencer à manger quand tout le monde est à la table, et caetera. Hmmm, Maintenant nous sommes meilleurs que les Américains. Les américains ne font aucune de ces truc (mais pas tout les Américains parce que ils y a les Américains qui sont vraiment polis). Et Beaucoup d'Américains sont obéses et et ça n'a pas l'air joli.

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  • July 7, 2019 at 5:44 pm
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    Here's my experience, Im Indian but from North Eastern region, we are culturally different, we look different (Asian), and our accent is also different. Last month me and my parents visited Paris. We arrived by train from Interlaken, Switzerland. The taxi driver who was supposed to pick us up was late by 45mins. The worst thing.. He didnt even dropped us at the hotel! He dropped us across the street of the hotel!!! He is definitely not French, he is dark, somewhat Bangladeshi/Pakistan. Spoke little english and blamed the traffic cause he had to take a long U-turn. But seriously left us with our heavy luggage opposite to the hotel. That's just the first part.
    On day 3, we were to go and visit The Versailles Palace. The tourist van leaves at 8:20am. We were supposed to reached at 8am to where the Van awaits. As for the past 2 days, I was familiar with the metro routes, we took the metro early morning, but due to my bad calculation of stops, we got down 15mins walk away from where the Van was waiting. It was near Tour Eiffel. This is what the tourist guide said to us, " Ahh Indians huh? Always late! Its in your culture"!!! I was like WTH, we reached at 8:15am the Van was supposed to leave at 8:20am, yes we didnt reached before 8am, it was our fault but still we managed to make it before @! I was so off mood with the racial criticism from the guide I slept off on the way to the palace. When we arrived at the palace, the guide told us, " Please dont take any food items inside the palace, like most Indians do and mess up the whole place"!! Seriously?? Why all this abuse? What have we done to her that makes her speak such stuffs??? And yes when explaining stuffs at the palace, she didnt even bother to look at us, she looked only at the americans when explaining all the historic details in the palace. Later on when she saw that we aren't like the Indians she had met, she started treating us with a smile. But in my head im still like "Screw you, you racist B"!!!
    I met a friend there in Paris, she was so polite and humble, but are others treating other people so badly just because they dont know them??? What's the point of Bonjouring when you still have racism and hatred in your heart???

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  • July 7, 2019 at 8:50 pm
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    When we went to Paris several years ago, we had absolutely NO problems. Why? Because I didn’t expect any, and because we were blown away by the beauty of the country—and made no secret of our appreciation for the French. We said hello, please and thank you. I’ll say it again, thank you for being such a warm, welcoming country.

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  • July 7, 2019 at 11:18 pm
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    I’ve been all over Europe and all I can say is that the Parisians are the rudest people I have ever met. They go out of their way to be awful. And if you speak English, their fangs come out. That’s not a stereotype, it’s just my personal experience.

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  • July 12, 2019 at 1:01 am
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    I think they are just rude to English people because they seem to hate us for some reason

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  • July 12, 2019 at 11:50 pm
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    I was in Strassbourg once. And they were really polite. As I always like to say: Strassbourg is just a german city speaking French.

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  • July 13, 2019 at 12:59 am
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    Hmmm respect, what a concept. It’s what everyone wants.

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  • July 13, 2019 at 9:40 pm
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    I don’t generally find them rude even though Paris for example is overrun by tourists like myself.
    And one of the MANY things I admire about the French is their ability to throw a bloody good riot!
    Aussies are so damn apolitical and lazy.

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  • July 14, 2019 at 7:23 am
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    Thanks now I understand why we don't like the French.

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  • July 15, 2019 at 3:24 pm
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    In the US, the more friendly and open to a newcomer, the more polite. In France the more formal, and distant, the more polite. I think you summed it all up 🙂

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  • July 17, 2019 at 4:06 pm
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    C’est quoi le problème des gens qui vivent en dehors de Paris avec Paris 😂 vous y avez mis les pieds au moins ?

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  • July 18, 2019 at 9:11 am
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    If I’m being honest they are

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  • July 18, 2019 at 1:32 pm
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    Merci beaucoup pour cette analyse ! merci pour l'intelligence du cœur ! Merci de chercher à comprendre ce qui est différent chez l'autre ….. c'est une démarche rare qui me touche beaucoup et qui révèle un grand cœur ! Bonne continuation !

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  • July 20, 2019 at 2:31 pm
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    I always appreciate this "Rude French' crap coming from Anglo US douches. Above all considering the non stop flood of bullshits vomited by these turds against the French on the web. lt's a misperception based on cultural differences. Anglo US douches think that they own the world and that their model is the only one on this planet.. Above all when you know that USians are the most ignorant fucks in the world. 80 % have no passports and never travel outside US. They think that the whole world is based on US model, while they don't even realize that it's the total opposite, in fact. US are not even 5 % of world population. A little bit more than 300 million, while world population is around 8 billion. There are probably more rude, insane and mean people in US than in France. I've experienced it myself. All these piles of bullshits are nothing more than hidden jealousy coming from frustrated cunts, who should try to fix their problem with France in mental clinics. And if they don't like France no one force them to come here. They are free to go where they want, and fuck themselves elsewhere. In North Korea or Iran, for instance.

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  • July 21, 2019 at 12:53 pm
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    I am an American, who lives in France, and that is one of the big différences I have noticed between the French and Americans.  One time my wife, who is French, and I were at Universal Studio City in Los Angeles someone overheard us talking and they mentioned that they had visited Paris.  While I have lived in France, for 15 years, only 2 times has a stranger talked to me.  Once, we were in the metro and a stranger was looking at me, so I said bonjour, her response was "do I know you?"  Now, I don't talk to strangers unless they talk to me first.

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  • July 23, 2019 at 2:45 am
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    They are bitter because they won't get over them surrendering every time.

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  • July 23, 2019 at 6:15 am
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    Les français sont rudes avec les français qui trouvent les français rudent et les français en ont marre de ces français

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  • July 23, 2019 at 6:24 am
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    Le service ds la restauration surtout et dans Paris particulièrement c'est scandaleux… On est là pour leur rapporter du fric et ils nous le font bien sentir je précise je suis française

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  • July 24, 2019 at 4:25 pm
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    Hey, good video!
    I shall just add two more things :
    If you get to live in the south part of France, people will be warmer, you just need to know one friend, and everybody who you'll be introduced to will be chill and friendly with you (from my experience in Marseille compared to Lyon, Grenoble and Paris)
    Also, when you're a french expat in a foreign country, it's quite boring to see that french people are even cold between them, they don't want to make friends or have a conversation just because you're french too

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  • July 25, 2019 at 6:17 pm
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    Très intéressant de voir comment les autres nous voient. Très bon travail, bravo!

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  • August 3, 2019 at 4:01 am
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    I guess I'm a coconut. And I'm not even french.😂😂

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  • August 7, 2019 at 7:10 pm
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    Greeks are apples. No hard parts to them.

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  • August 9, 2019 at 8:52 am
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    I know this is a bit of an older vid but wanted to say that as an Australian the things you explain about etiquette etc, is just everyday living for me. I may say a little hello to someone in a small space but I don't need to go in my life story and actually get really uncomfortable with small talk. Saying hello and thank you etc and treating people in the service industry with respect should happen everywhere. I don't see a waiter or a barrister (even in my smaller beach town) as me being right and they should do everything I want etc, but as an equal, and often more that I am very grateful they are making my coffee or making my food etc (even though i am paying for it) etc. It's just manners and being a good person i think. I have not been to France (i would love to one day) but I think your advice should be common sense all over the world 🙂

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  • August 9, 2019 at 11:42 pm
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    From my french point of view, someone who doesn't speak french but tries with a few words to get some for exemple is showing that he is interested in the country, and respectful to the culture. I'm always willing to help someone if they try to speak french, in my eyes they are showing me respect. Even if he can't speak french, he tries, and that's the most important part. "C'est l'intention qui compte", as we say. As you stated very well, in France you are not talking to a waiter as an employee trying to earn some money, but to a person who's trying to offer you a nice moment, in the most human way possible. I think that is why it's super easy to talk to people in Italy. The culture is almost the same, plus (especially in northern Italy) people speak french and love french people. The opposite is also true( I live in Savoy).

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  • August 11, 2019 at 9:50 am
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    17 mins for a cup a water? I've just never seen that in 30 years of dining at restaurant.

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  • August 11, 2019 at 10:12 am
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    I am not sure if it's true, but I tend to think like you : french are not good in faking warm attitude. They are as warm as a human can be in this world, but the fake first warm impression isn't a thing here. So less smiles, more real smiles.
    It's hard for tourist, but when you live here, it's high rewarded. If a french finally smiles at you, you feel it warmer.

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  • August 12, 2019 at 7:17 pm
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    Thank you for sharing this!
    I moved from Europe to the US and gained like 25 kg in a few years. The culture here is: the more you eat, the better. Food is extremely salty and sweet in restaurants to a degree that I couldn't eat out for the first month because everything was so salty! Plus, I still get shocked when in a supermarket I see some products that are sold as food, but all they contain is sugar, artificial colors, and chemicals. It's really sad.
    Also, sometimes my friends get shocked when I suggest walking somewhere. "It's too far to walk", whereas I'm like "Seriously?" Lol. It's a sad world here when it comes to food.
    I've been losing weight now, mostly by returning to eating European-size food portions and avoiding the American-style processed foods. Efforts that I never had to take in Europe.

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  • August 12, 2019 at 10:35 pm
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    You are great,keep up the good work👍

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  • August 13, 2019 at 9:56 am
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    I think that a lot of Anglo US cunts should try to fix their problem with France in mental clinics. Boring, after a while.

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  • August 13, 2019 at 5:19 pm
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    Thank you for this video!

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  • August 14, 2019 at 1:47 am
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    Do love France and I respect as the way French people are ,to me it’s just different experience nothing wrong with that 🌺🌺🌺

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  • August 14, 2019 at 1:34 pm
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    you know coconut is a racist slur in the US, for those latinos or mexican americans who doesnt speak spanish.

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  • August 14, 2019 at 1:54 pm
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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sanVFhodXKc

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  • August 17, 2019 at 1:47 pm
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    Your bit on France being a very hierarchical society still, which explains why low-ranked professionals like waiters or else can remind you from time to time that they're human beings with a dignity, is the best description of the "French bad service" complex I've ever heard…Goes straight to my heart, you're so smart.

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  • August 18, 2019 at 5:34 am
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    Stereotypes exist for a reason…there is truth to them. This video was interesting but has only solidified how rude Parisians are….they don't want to chat with strangers b/c they're self-absorbed; their whole way of life is about fulfilling inner desires and living for self, living in the moment… yada yada…It is a very SELFISH way to think and live. I bet I am driving some french person crazy right now with this…. Let's be honest here, French people don't like speaking to strangers because they don't give a damn about them, nor their interests, their opinions, thoughts, etc..; they're closed off and cold bc their self-absorbed…I find it odd how they expect you to say hello and look down on you if you don't say Bonjour; yet, they shutter at the thought of having a small conversation with a stranger. How sad that French people don't like little chats with strangers…. Who knows what that small conversation could lead to… Maybe something interesting or good perhaps? And for French people to complain about having to give an American, directions after they have worked an 8 hour day and have an hour commute…Really?… That is pretty much every American already…we're all overworked; have long commutes, and just want to go home, and most of us can still give a foreigner directions without an attitude. Try being a bit more SELFLESS FRENCH people!…And wow…so many rules…"If a conversation ensues with a french person, don't be too loud or giggly; don't use hyperbole too much…these are marks of simpletons." Excuse me while I roll my eyes. So, okay, I will just pretend to be a droid if I happen to bump into a Parisian….Oh French people—GET OVER YOURSELVES, btw, please stand up already and save your country; it looks like Islamabad. Aside from my rant, I appreciated the video.

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  • August 18, 2019 at 10:13 am
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    Too funny. I am living in Brissy, Au. I find Kiwis a nicer, British version of Australia. This is a long to how Canadians are a nicer version of American.

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  • August 21, 2019 at 8:43 am
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    I don’t know French in France but all the French people I’ve met in Australia are so fucking rude. Saw a French dude in convention store and he’s told his card transaction has declined, then he kept asking the stuff why, the stuff told him to call the bank, and that French dude was like “you’re full of bullshit”, and there was a long queue behind him.

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  • August 22, 2019 at 11:52 am
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    De la part d'un peuple qui dit Fuck You or Fuck Off à longueur de temps, i took a LOUD American' lesson 🙂 Well, well Frenchies are the CORE of the PEACH but empty after the core 🙂 hahahaha

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